I'm not married. Dating. I have a new girlfriend. This comes up a lot and I think some of you may relate to this - male or female. I'm the male - I always focus on my partner to the point that I make them selfish where the otherwise wouldn't if I was more "fair and balanced". Due to some medications I am on that decrease sensitivity (not desire or erection), I have trouble achieving orgasm. So, we wind up making love for 4-5 hours and it's not uncommon that she'll have 1-5 orgasms before I have one. So, I'm in this new relationship and I haven't had one. We just had a weekend of making love and there was an opportunity tonight for her to focus on me after I pleased her once more - but...she didn't take it, we just said goodnight. And it hurt me because she's a single mom and we wont have another opportunity for 2 weeks. In the meantime, I just got through pleasing her for the 6th time this weekend and I didn't get the sense there was any kind of feeling of taking care of me afterwards. I felt disconnected and, kind of used. The environment was as such that I think it was "in the air" that there is something wrong here. I didnt want to bring it up at midnight, it's Monday tomorrow and she needed to get to bed, but, still....I expect to see it in their heart that they are focused on me - especially when such an imbalance takes place like this (her receiving all of the attention and non-reciprocating the focus). I don't want to have to "speak up" in such an obvious situation. Her orgasms took a lot of time, she doesn't climax easily...and I put in the work (gladly) and attention and I just don't see that being returned. I would expect something like this 'Honey, before you try to please me again, I will not allow it until I please you" or something like that. But, she just walked me to the door goodnight. I felt like a male prostitute. I guess I'm frustrated too. Would appreciate advice. Yes, I know I should communicate this with her, but at our age, 45, I just figured she would be totally aware of the situation and feel she's just, well, turning selfish.