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I posted about my wife of 18 years a couple of weeks ago. I took you guys advice and bought a VAR. Convinced she wasn't doing anything I took the VAR back(never opened it) and now she acting really suspicious again. She is still talking on the phone with someone only in her car. I came home early Friday and she quickly hung up the phone. She said it was someone we both knew. I checked her call log online and it wasn't this person. She left on Saturday to go window shopping with a coworker. The strange part is that she took her flat iron, comb, brush deorderant and perfume. I confronted about all the items she took when she came back home and she totally flew off the handle. Thing about buying a VAR again. Also, what are you guys suggestion about a good and fairly cheap GPS tracker?
 

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What kind of phone does she have, you might beable to track her through her cell.

Dying to know what lame @ss excuss for the "cheating gear" she brought with her?

Tell her next time she sleeps with OM she should just wear a hair net and she won't have to waste the time fixing her hair back up.
 

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@the guy It is a Galaxy S 2, it is locked with a pass code I do not know. She takes it everywhere with her, even in the shower last night. She said she took her flat iron because her hair got frizzy from being outdoors a couple of weeks ago.
 

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@the guy It is a Galaxy S 2, it is locked with a pass code I do not know. She takes it everywhere with her, even in the shower last night. She said she took her flat iron because her hair got frizzy from being outdoors a couple of weeks ago.
Dude if she is taking her phone everywhere with her including the shower, you have nothing to look for... she's got a new hobby and it walks on two legs and has a third one!

So sorry you are here, be sure you do not forget this is not your fault.
 

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Oh yeah - she is cheating - and not hiding it very well.

Get a VAR for her car - actually get two - so you can have one recording while you listen to the other.

Do you have access to her phone records?

Does her phone have GPS?

Edit: Just remembered you can check the call logs. Check for numbers you do not recognize. Have a friend call the numbers to find out who they belong to. You could try Spokeo.com to look up the numbers but that does not always work.
 

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Did she change her behavior right around the time you bought the VAR? Am I interpreting this correctly that her behavior changed immediately when you first purchased? Did you use cash or was it on a card that she has access to the online activity? FYI, if you plan on buying another VAR, make sure to pay cash, traveler's check or use a prepaid Visa. If she asks why you bought a prepaid Visa, you can always give her some lame excuse like you got some rewards points for buying a gift card or something like that. If she asks you for the prepaid Visa, tell her no, that you are going to use it for cash for your expenses (gas, lunches, other stuff you normally due during your pay period).
 

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I'll never understand women.

Why do they need a flat iron to cheat on someone?!?

If she asks about a prepaid visa, tell her you got it to buy her a flat iron you were going to give her for xmas so she could just keep one in her car.

Sometimes it's a good idea to play along with her games...
 

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@ TDSC60 she has Sprint. Sprint allows you to view call logs only. N information about texts, just how many texts. Yes it has GPS. How do I track her movement without being able to access her phone?
 

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I used cash when I bought the VAR the first time. It just seem like she was acting normal again and honestly I felt relief from the thought of her cheating. So that's why I let my guard down.
 

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It's like her phone has become a part of her body.
My wife used to sleep with her cellphone tucked into her pillow case at night.

I think heres what happed, you got suspicioue months ago and she caught on and cooled off her affair, then when you relaxed she thought she could start up again, what she didn't count on is TAM being here to get you back on track with your evidence gathering.

Is there any way she found out about the VAR purchase and return?

I suggest you settle down, you got her spidy senses back up again with the confrontation about the affair gear. Start pretenting all is good and except her excusses and next time don't confront until you get the smoking gun.
 

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@ TDSC60 she has Sprint. Sprint allows you to view call logs only. N information about texts, just how many texts. Yes it has GPS. How do I track her movement without being able to access her phone?
I have heard (I don't have Sprint) that actual print out of text messages can be acquired from Sprint if the account is in your name. Check with Sprint.

There are programs that claim to be able to track by phone number if the GPS function is turned on. I don't have personal experience with that type of phone.

There are GPS devices that can be placed in her vehicle but I have heard mixed reviews, do some on-line research and pick one.

Do not confront or ask her question out of the ordinary (as much as you would like to). She needs to feel safe to carry on her affair. Act dumb and happy and the evidence will come.
 

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She had no clue I bought a VAR. Also, I heard there are alarms on these VAR's that may sound f you don't turn them off properly.
Ask the salesman when you buy the VARs what functions it has. I don't think there are alarms, but even if there are I'm sure you have the option of disabling any sound coming from the VAR. And don't forget the heavy duty velcro for attaching under the seat or console.

Also I would do a dry run in my own car to determine where the best place is. Put one under the seat one under the dash and give them a test drive. See which location is best.
 

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She told me how much she love me this afternoon, yet she talked to this guy for almost an hour this morning on her way to work. Is she trying to throw me off? This is stressing me out soo much.
 
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