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So this week has been a roller coaster week for the husband and me. I do not believe he views our family as important and if it wasn't for finances I'd be out the door with the kids like yesterday. Monday was his football day he watches football, talks on the phone and drinks the night away. Not much family time since I have no interest in football and neither do our children since they are under two. Tuesday rolls around and he decides to go gold panning after work...he's out over an hour past dark and wonders why I might question what he was doing. Wednesday he calls from work and says hes going fishing with a coworker. No big deal right but he comes home between 8:30 and 9:00 with get this NO fish. Thursday he comes home and stupid me I'm thinkin' he's been kinda nice lately (I haven't been called names for a week) so I put the moves on him and he shuts me down. At this point I'm pretty darn frustrated so I tell him how its upsetting I've been taking birth control all month and he wants nothing to do with me. I think if I'm gonna pump my body full of chemicals and hormones there should at least be a reason. I feel neglected emotionally and he's got the nerve to leave me physically neglected too. I also tell him he's not spending enough time with the kids and he needs to have a family day. Friday rolls around and he agrees he needs to spend more time with the kids so he promises me and our oldest child how Saturday he's gonna spend the whole day with us. (I might add he drinks to the point of being intoxicated nightly). His brother is over friday and all seems well but later I find out he had to call and cancel gold panning, no big deal at least he cancelled right. He then makes plans to go cat fishing Saturday night. I hassle him about how I appreciate him spending time with the kids but now hes going to spend another evening ignoring his wife...YAY go me I'm a frigging genius. He comes to bed for a little over an hour then goes and sleeps on the couch. Now is it just me or does it seem like this guy wants nothing to do with me? Ok so Saturday morning is here and we get woke up at 8 with a phone call from that coworker from earlier in the week asking if he was on his way. Apparently he told that guy he was gonna go fishing with him, he tells him maybe this afternoon. The hubby then tells me to start getting the girls ready so we can go on this hike. Well excuse me...but this was supposed to be family day that means you spend the day with your family doing things together....We were going to go on a hike. I ask him what time we need to be back and he says 2. We go round and round about the not spending time with the family and now were going to rush that time so he can fish...Hmmm Thanks. I had intentions of making a big breakfast showering and getting ready maybe not even getting out of the house till 10 or 11 Those plans are shot so I get the kids ready. He decides I'm being a ***** and tells me he doesn't want to go. So I load the kids up and leave...you'd think that would be the end of it, no he calls and is mad at me for leaving without him while he's in the shower.
I'm frustrated beyond belief with this man ok so maybe I was wrong to just leave but he did say he didn't want to go after all? Is it normal for a guy to not come home several nights a week? Is it normal to drink and smoke weed every day? Is it normal to forget your plans all the time? If a mans wife offers him a bj even when things arn't great does he turn it down? If you spent this much time with your family would you be telling people how your going to have another kid with this woman who you seemingly hate and do not enjoy her company? Is it normal to only have short lived bouts of happiness together? Why is it when I bring up the possibility of splitting would he say he wants the kids 50% of the time when he doesn't even spend 2 hours a weeks with them.
I'm frustrated beyond belief with this man ok so maybe I was wrong to just leave but he did say he didn't want to go after all? Is it normal for a guy to not come home several nights a week? Is it normal to drink and smoke weed every day? Is it normal to forget your plans all the time? If a mans wife offers him a bj even when things arn't great does he turn it down? If you spent this much time with your family would you be telling people how your going to have another kid with this woman who you seemingly hate and do not enjoy her company? Is it normal to only have short lived bouts of happiness together? Why is it when I bring up the possibility of splitting would he say he wants the kids 50% of the time when he doesn't even spend 2 hours a weeks with them.