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Hi, before I start I appreciate all the advice I really need it.
My boyfriend and I have been on and off over the years there were moments when he dated other people seriously and I did too, but always reconnect at some points. And lately have bee kind of steady.
As a result of all the on and off my trust in him has gotten weak. and some things he says and does have make me wonder if he is talking to somebody else or cheating. One day he left me alone in his house while he got food for us. I had to do homework so, I asked him if i could just send a couple of emails to my classmates just to keep my self on track with the projects i had to do. He said yes go ahead and left.
At this pint I am doing what I was going to do but, the curiosity sparked in me and I checked his internet history. Bam! I found him in a gay dating site and also found a page where you can watch gay porn. I went trough other stuff but finding that was like a pail of cold water was dumped over my head. He was definitely active in there.
As he came home i tried not to act differently but I felt awkward, lost, angry, disappointed a mixture of feelings that I just can describe. So I stayed there that night and the next morning left. Since then we have been talking but I have been avoiding seeing him. He knows something is up but I am torn on what to do. I wanted to tell him but I was afraid he would get mad with me for revising his things and not respecting his privacy. Second I went to the site did a little re search and found him, I made a fake profile and contact him. he respond back and I dont know if I should open that can of worms or not.
I love him very much. More than I have loved anyone ever. I know him for so long our sex is passionate and he is very caring and tender to me. He has never asked me to do anything freaky during sex and I have never had reason to believe he could be doing this on the down low. I ask myself if I really love him shouldn't I be able to respect his needs and understand them? Should I say something to him? Should I bust him in the act? Should I break up with him and move on. Because I am not sure if I want to deal with this, or be involved in that lifestyle. I am afraid and feel like I don't know him anymore. He was in the navy for a long time maybe when he was overseas he had an encounter and like it, as I said I've known him for years and I have seen him date other woman. Serious relationships. I did as well but I am sure I like men. What should I do??
My boyfriend and I have been on and off over the years there were moments when he dated other people seriously and I did too, but always reconnect at some points. And lately have bee kind of steady.
As a result of all the on and off my trust in him has gotten weak. and some things he says and does have make me wonder if he is talking to somebody else or cheating. One day he left me alone in his house while he got food for us. I had to do homework so, I asked him if i could just send a couple of emails to my classmates just to keep my self on track with the projects i had to do. He said yes go ahead and left.
At this pint I am doing what I was going to do but, the curiosity sparked in me and I checked his internet history. Bam! I found him in a gay dating site and also found a page where you can watch gay porn. I went trough other stuff but finding that was like a pail of cold water was dumped over my head. He was definitely active in there.
As he came home i tried not to act differently but I felt awkward, lost, angry, disappointed a mixture of feelings that I just can describe. So I stayed there that night and the next morning left. Since then we have been talking but I have been avoiding seeing him. He knows something is up but I am torn on what to do. I wanted to tell him but I was afraid he would get mad with me for revising his things and not respecting his privacy. Second I went to the site did a little re search and found him, I made a fake profile and contact him. he respond back and I dont know if I should open that can of worms or not.
I love him very much. More than I have loved anyone ever. I know him for so long our sex is passionate and he is very caring and tender to me. He has never asked me to do anything freaky during sex and I have never had reason to believe he could be doing this on the down low. I ask myself if I really love him shouldn't I be able to respect his needs and understand them? Should I say something to him? Should I bust him in the act? Should I break up with him and move on. Because I am not sure if I want to deal with this, or be involved in that lifestyle. I am afraid and feel like I don't know him anymore. He was in the navy for a long time maybe when he was overseas he had an encounter and like it, as I said I've known him for years and I have seen him date other woman. Serious relationships. I did as well but I am sure I like men. What should I do??
