I've been married now for 5 years. I'm 27 my wife is 26. We have a 4 year old and a 11 month old. At the outset I want to make clear that I'm completely understanding of how hard it is to be a mom. I understand that she has to deal with the 2 kids while I'm at work, but she also has her mother here to help her since her mother can't support herself. In essence, we have no intimacy. The last time we were intimate was probably the day we concieved our 2nd child. So going on a long time with no sex. I take that back 1 time since the kid was born that I can honestly remember. I just feel like a paycheck. We have moments during the day where we might talk about being intimate and she says she'll get the kids to bed early (I help) and then she lays down and passes out in our toddler's bed. I'm just lost. Whenever I bring it up, I'm not understand, but then she tells me I'm understanding. I'm confused, hurt, sad.