this is very true.at least for me anyway.
my body might be willing but if my head isn't in the game it won't happen.best way to keep getting laid,try to keep your relationship as peaceful and resentment free as possible.
this is very true.at least for me anyway.Turns out sometimes PUAs are full of it.
If a woman doesn't want to have sex with you, the quality of the sex doesn't really matter. If there are too many resentments/obligations/other people/personality defects that are getting in the way of sex, you can be a pro and it will not matter, and I say this from experience. My husband is the best I've ever had in bed and when we have too many issues in the house, I don't even want to think about sex.
I can only speak for myself... Doing my dishes is not what turns every woman on. I am not an "Acts of service" - I never needed help doing stuff around the house, I was on it.My question is why would a wife still do that if it is good/great/excellent/whatever else positive outcome you can put on it? Think thats the problem I am having these days unless she is totally faking it. I dont think she is from the way her body reacts, you cant fight your body. I know from her past reaction that its accurate. I just dont understand the lack of frequency, may be she still has trust issues, I dont know. I need someone elses opinion on this. Needs are being met, hell they are being exceeded (lately I provide a 2-for-1. She gets off twice before I get off once). So wtf.....?
Very true !!I'mAllIn said: even if their husbands are amazing lovers, is that they take their husbands (and the sex) for granted
If you are taking 'relationship advice' from pickup artist videos, you are doing it wrong.I use to watch a lot of pick up artist videos a while back. So many great tips....
This in a nutshell is probably one of the biggest problems in a marriage (I know it was in mine) and it goes beyond just sex. Everyone is pulling both you and your spouse everywhich way and demanding your time and effort. Your spouse, because they love you, should understand when you put them last, and they mostly do in the short term. The problems occur when it becomes a habit. You have to work at making your spouse a priority at times.I think a common problem with some wives, even if their husbands are amazing lovers, is that they take their husbands (and the sex) for granted. Sure the sex is amazing, but they're tired and the kids need them and the floor needs swept and the dishes washed and the sex will be just as good tomorrow, so they put the husband off for tonight, and the same tomorrow, and the next night. If a wife (or husband for that matter) isn't all that high drive it's all too easy to put "forget" how good it was and put sex off for another time.
The answer is ... lots of reasons. Maybe the wife resents the husband. A wife's resentments can be substantial, or trivial. But they are often present. And when they are, they will inhibit her libido. Maybe she's just bored.I cant remember what his explanation was but he said a woman would never withhold or reject sex from a man when its good/great. My question is why would a wife still do that if it is good/great/excellent/whatever else positive outcome you can put on it?
OK. You're meeting her needs in the bedroom. Are you meeting her needs outside of it? What is her love language? Do you need to bring in extra money? Do more housework? Fix her car? There's probably something.I just dont understand the lack of frequency, may be she still has trust issues, I dont know. I need someone elses opinion on this. Needs are being met, hell they are being exceeded (lately I provide a 2-for-1. She gets off twice before I get off once).
I found doing more work or chores to be fools gold. I got all kinds of wonderful comments, but virtually no extra attraction from my wife. She certainly implied that all those chores were what was keeping her libido down, but that was not true (not saying she was lying, as I tend to think she did not really know herself).You know how to get women to lay you? Be AFFECTIONATE without trying to stick your hands in her pants! Help her do the dishes or something. If you have kids, help with them. We get turned on through CONSIDERATION!
Telling us how hot we are all the time isn't going to win you many points - but appreciating us will win you a medal!
"Fools Gold" - yup that's true. "I need you to do more house work so that I can feel more in the mood." said a lot of wives. Then it's "your just doing that to get laid". You can not win that as it seems weak and pathetic on your part. How about "If you have more sex with me I'd be more in the mood for house work" . Why is it always about what you need to do in order for her to feel more in the mood when really isn't it more about what she needs to do? If she was not to include you or your behavior in the equation of what needs to happen in order for her to feel desire I wonder what her answer would be.I found doing more work or chores to be fools gold. I got all kinds of wonderful comments, but virtually no extra attraction from my wife. She certainly implied that all those chores were what was keeping her libido down, but that was not true (not saying she was lying, as I tend to think she did not really know herself).
:iagree:Funny, I thought the whole PUA thing was about getting them into bed the first time. Repeat business is a whole other thing.
Exactly. They will move down the line of women finding one open to their moves for however long - the complete antithesis of an enduring relationship.Funny, I thought the whole PUA thing was about getting them into bed the first time. Repeat business is a whole other thing.
Mega fail.OK. You're meeting her needs in the bedroom. Are you meeting her needs outside of it... Do you need to bring in extra money?