My question is why would a wife still do that if it is good/great/excellent/whatever else positive outcome you can put on it? Think thats the problem I am having these days unless she is totally faking it. I dont think she is from the way her body reacts, you cant fight your body. I know from her past reaction that its accurate. I just dont understand the lack of frequency, may be she still has trust issues, I dont know. I need someone elses opinion on this. Needs are being met, hell they are being exceeded (lately I provide a 2-for-1. She gets off twice before I get off once). So wtf.....?
I can only speak for myself... Doing my dishes is not what turns every woman on. I am not an "Acts of service" - I never needed help doing stuff around the house, I was on it.
I've ALWAYS LOVED SEX, been dreaming about doing it with a guy since I was 11... healthy sex drive....had to masterbate if something brushed up against me at night - always attracted to my Husband, his body type.....I never had any resentments either... happy marriage .
Pleasing me was EVERYTHING TO HIM.... I was satisfied every single time....I was lost in his kisses , it was so good, it went like a flash... I would think "Damn, I wish this could go on forever" Orgasmed every single time...or I'd make him do it again - I needed mine.
But here is the thing..... don't ask me why I was this stupid, I have no clue..... even though he satified me to the moon & back...no feeling on heaven & earth could compare....in my silly brain... I felt like ..."Well... I am good for another so many days!" ... I didn't have that RUSH of hormonal NEED until up 5 days to a week later...
So I needed heated up , ya know -women are like a "slow cooker" they say...especially when we are younger.
Now my husband took this as me having Low desire.. we just never talked about these things :banghead: I was just clueless to realizing this can be REVIVED every day if we wanted and he was so very sensitive to MY DESIRE for him.... which wasn't doing him any favors.
We were just DUMB ...he could have primed me, seduced me more ---revved my engine so I feel....back in the day....I always seemed to have other things on the brain...projects to do, kids, whatever... People need to tease, flirt, seduce , arouse each other & revive the passion daily... If the other is willing to be put in the mood, that is. I believe I would have been - because I always craved physical touch anyway.
I'mAllIn said: even if their husbands are amazing lovers, is that they take their husbands (and the sex) for granted
Very true !!
I DID take my husband and his desire for granted, it was always at my beck & call... and I was NOT getting how he was feeling deep within....he NEVER talked to me about it, he didn't want to "Rock the boat" (his words after opening this topic up a few yrs back).... I have been an initiating wife since the beginning -so he didn't want to push it. I just didn't "get" how men NEED it like that -so often
back in the day... till the shoes were on MY FEET. One thing I never was, was too tired..I always had more Pep & energy than he did! Still do.
Live & learn.