You have drifted apart too much, she is clearly better placed with all her men-students, you are alone and have no one. Just begin the separation process and start looking after yourselfAm not scared that she will leave me. I would be happier if she is open about her choice. Am scared she will become frenetic, throw things, lock herself up in a room and threaten suicide. Thats what am scared of. If i talk about separation she will lose it and become frenetic. If i talk about why she is continuing to talk with them, she will become frenetic and throw things and go out of control. All this before our kid. Am scared how this will effect the kid. Am not scared of being lonely, have been lonely all my life, not just 10 years. Mom died when i was 7, dear dad put me in boarding school. Lived in boarding schools and colleges till i grew up. Separation after marriage. Never been with family.