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Thank you universe for reminding me that there is no hope for us!
We have done the in house seperation for alittle over a month now and I was starting to think this is okay. No big arguments and we are going through our day to day stuff just fine. Maybe a new spark will start us up.
UNTIL last night happened!
My wife had made plans earlier this week with her boss to take our kids and her bosses kids to see a movie. Just my wife and 4 kids, fine thats cool right? It should be yes but my wife has a special way with things. See I was not invited, hint #1...which is fine because at this point I don't like to be in public with her, the public humiliation has just hurt to bad.(I'll explain that alittle more later)
The movie was at 7pm so I was to make sure the kids are all ready by say 6:30. I get the kids from school start dinner, homework, etc. Well we have all been sick so my daughter fell asleep on the couch around 5pm. I text my wife that our daughter is napping. She responds back freaking out to make sure I have them ready by 6pm?!? Weird thats kinda early.....this is feeling like something else is going on. Hint #2.
But I shrug it off and tell myself that I have to put my faith in her to make the right decisions. Well she gets here and she does not have her bosses kids with her and I question her where they are at. Hint #3. She made up some BS excuse and loaded our kids up and took off.
Whatever, shrug it off move on because I do not control her and she needs to make her own good decisions. Start cleaning up after dinner, drink a couple beers. Then I realize the 3 hints and put them together as a "something is just not right moment"? Well again I shrug it off and tell myself I am just paranoid.
They get home at 9pm and I put the kids to sleep, FB for a while and go to bed.
On to this morning, wife gets ready goes off to work. I am making the kids breakfast and remember the 3 hints and get the paranoid feeling again. So I say to my kids "so did you have fun at the movie, it was just you guys and bosses kids right"?.......
Nope, she was there with her best friends husband and a couple of their kids. No bestfriend though. If you don't know my story she has a friend who she is BFF with to the point of EA. Maybe even PA with friends husband I don't know, it hurts but I just don't have it in me anymore to care.
AND on to the public humiliation, maybe to some this isn't humiliating but to me it is and we have discussed it and she could care less. I will do my best to explain...
When we are out in public together as soon as there is anyone else around she automatically puts me on the bottom of the list, won't acknowledge me at all until she needs something. No holding hands, hugs, kiss, no real show that we are together. If you didn't know us actually you probably wouldn't even guess that we are married. Example- We would go to Thanksgiving with her family, she would take off and I would be sitting with the kids and we would barely see her for the rest of the afternoon/night. It feels like she doesn't even want me/us there with her. It has always hurt and bothered me but as long as she showed me love sometime such as at home or when we jump in the car I seemed to be fine
UNTIL she met this friend that took over our alone time too and there wasn't any healing time anymore. She was always on the phone, texting, FB, at their house, whatever.
So some point in our relationship after the BFF was introduced to our life my wife started acting different, giving me the feeling that she was thinking the grass looks greener kinda thing comparing our life to theirs. Well I always felt alittle weird after that like something else was going on with my wife. There were little things here and there that made me more and more uncomfortable. A big one was at my daughters B-day party the BFF husband was basically eyeball fkn my wife the whole time.
Whatever I am done. I don't even think I can do this in house seperation anymore for the kids, I am pretty sure I don't love her anymore.
We have done the in house seperation for alittle over a month now and I was starting to think this is okay. No big arguments and we are going through our day to day stuff just fine. Maybe a new spark will start us up.
UNTIL last night happened!
My wife had made plans earlier this week with her boss to take our kids and her bosses kids to see a movie. Just my wife and 4 kids, fine thats cool right? It should be yes but my wife has a special way with things. See I was not invited, hint #1...which is fine because at this point I don't like to be in public with her, the public humiliation has just hurt to bad.(I'll explain that alittle more later)
The movie was at 7pm so I was to make sure the kids are all ready by say 6:30. I get the kids from school start dinner, homework, etc. Well we have all been sick so my daughter fell asleep on the couch around 5pm. I text my wife that our daughter is napping. She responds back freaking out to make sure I have them ready by 6pm?!? Weird thats kinda early.....this is feeling like something else is going on. Hint #2.
But I shrug it off and tell myself that I have to put my faith in her to make the right decisions. Well she gets here and she does not have her bosses kids with her and I question her where they are at. Hint #3. She made up some BS excuse and loaded our kids up and took off.
Whatever, shrug it off move on because I do not control her and she needs to make her own good decisions. Start cleaning up after dinner, drink a couple beers. Then I realize the 3 hints and put them together as a "something is just not right moment"? Well again I shrug it off and tell myself I am just paranoid.
They get home at 9pm and I put the kids to sleep, FB for a while and go to bed.
On to this morning, wife gets ready goes off to work. I am making the kids breakfast and remember the 3 hints and get the paranoid feeling again. So I say to my kids "so did you have fun at the movie, it was just you guys and bosses kids right"?.......
Nope, she was there with her best friends husband and a couple of their kids. No bestfriend though. If you don't know my story she has a friend who she is BFF with to the point of EA. Maybe even PA with friends husband I don't know, it hurts but I just don't have it in me anymore to care.
AND on to the public humiliation, maybe to some this isn't humiliating but to me it is and we have discussed it and she could care less. I will do my best to explain...
When we are out in public together as soon as there is anyone else around she automatically puts me on the bottom of the list, won't acknowledge me at all until she needs something. No holding hands, hugs, kiss, no real show that we are together. If you didn't know us actually you probably wouldn't even guess that we are married. Example- We would go to Thanksgiving with her family, she would take off and I would be sitting with the kids and we would barely see her for the rest of the afternoon/night. It feels like she doesn't even want me/us there with her. It has always hurt and bothered me but as long as she showed me love sometime such as at home or when we jump in the car I seemed to be fine
UNTIL she met this friend that took over our alone time too and there wasn't any healing time anymore. She was always on the phone, texting, FB, at their house, whatever.
So some point in our relationship after the BFF was introduced to our life my wife started acting different, giving me the feeling that she was thinking the grass looks greener kinda thing comparing our life to theirs. Well I always felt alittle weird after that like something else was going on with my wife. There were little things here and there that made me more and more uncomfortable. A big one was at my daughters B-day party the BFF husband was basically eyeball fkn my wife the whole time.
Whatever I am done. I don't even think I can do this in house seperation anymore for the kids, I am pretty sure I don't love her anymore.