I just joined this site and I am in desperate need of some real advice. I am have been married for 18 years. I am 45 and a very attractive woman and so is my husband. We have 2 beautiful children and are well off financially. On the outside, we have it all...except SEX. It has been a little over 5 years. And in year 6 or 7 it was only once or twice. He was never very sexual as I was but this to me is not normal. I thought he was cheating, I thought he was gay and now I just dont know what to think. We have talked about it lightly I use to bring up all the time he says he wants it back but never anything happens. I think we just dont desire each other that way. We love and care about each other and our family is important so we keep on trucking on. No intimacy or closeness is leaving me lonely. I had found some sites on his computer on an apple mac and he said they were pop ups from porn sites which i know can happen i guess. I found erotic massage parlors, fling.com, adultfriendfinder.com, meet locals.com... but he not the type to do that. But to me something is strange. His computer and phone are password locked. He knew I had password to computer and now is changed. The gay part comes in cause he is not very MANLY. He good looking but just a little too perfect. way he looks and dresses etc, I have hired PI for few days,,,,nothing I have put recorder in car in morning ....nothing. He is a very smart man and owns a business so who knows, or is he just the good family man that doesnt care about sex. I need help on how to find out what is going on!!! I asked if he gay or seeing escorts or anything he said no. Please help people. Thank u. I have been contemplating leaving for 5 years but am just afraid to be on own . He provides so well and does everything.