I have been married for eleven years. i have been a very loyal husband, and a good father to 2 children. I married my wife when she was twenty and i was 28. My wife works full time and so do i. My wife usually works nights and i work days so we don't see alot of each other. She goes out to the bar with her friends from work after she gets off at night and doesn't come home until closing time at 2:00 am. This happens probably twice a week and some time 3. I love my wife and still love her, but we have both been frustrated with everyday life, and now she says she loves me, but she is not "in love with me". I know she needs her escape and release from work, home, ect. and i understand that, but i can't help thinking something is going on the longer this goes on. I don't want to tell her not to go, but if i do she gets mad and says im trying to controll her. She says she just goes out with her friends, but i am not nieve and know that she gets hit on when she is out. I don't know what to do. I want to save my marriage, but there is so much tension. please help!