My husband cheated...out of the blue, no signs at all. he actually broke up our marriage over skype, 3 thousand miles from home. I found his emails to his HS crush, and first he tried to deny it, then he finally launched an all out verbal assault on me. He came back after his military training, and it was hell. I have been called every name in the book, to my face and to others. I have begged, pleaded, and so on... in the beginning. I would not accept it. He kept right on going, then he added his ex wife into the picture as well. I sit here wondering why all this happened, and why I miss him at all. I do not miss this new "him". I hate this person. I do miss the guy who I have loved for 14 years. The same caring person I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. We had so much in common, did almost everything together, and loved the life we made. My daughter and I were everything to him. He loved his family and did everything he could to surprise us and make us happy. But this person? Who is he? He has reinvented himself. I am blown away at how cruel he has become. It is as if we are enemies, yet he did this to me. He has a child with his ex, and had not seen the kid in 7 years. (The ex did not want him to be in the kids life because she and he could not stand one another). Somehow, while he was away he reconnected with all these people. The HS crush, the ex and his kid with her are his top priorities. Although he has been back for about 3 weeks, he has yet to spend any significant time with our daughter. In fact, when he planned to go on a day trip with us, he canceled, telling my daughter that he was eating lunch with his ex and their son and that I should take her (we did end up going, she and I). He got himself a deluxe apartment, and told me to go look in the crappy areas for a cheap place to live. He spends every waking minute texting these women. Before he left my home, he would slip away, say he was one place, catch himself in a lie, and then claim I was crazy. I am hurt so bad I dont think I will ever be the same. I used to love the holidays, but now I am dreading them. I dont have family (parents dead, no siblings), and I know my friends are probably tired of hearing the same thing over and over. I miss what I had, and I cant believe its over, just like that. Sometimes, I wonder what is wrong with me. He is enjoying himself, made it clear he doesnt ever want our marriage, and although I am a smart person, I feel like a fool. What the hell happened?