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1) Lighten up, lady. It's porn. Unless it's kiddy porn you should really just lighten up.

2) Most men look at porn, some more than others. It's a pretty normal, natural thing.

3) If he's going to look at it, he shouldn't lie to you about it. You need to make it clear that lying is not acceptable.

4) Make it clear that masturbating to porn and then saying he's too tired to have sex with you is unacceptable.

You need to set some realistic boundaries, get agreement from him that they're acceptable, and then hold him to them.

 

[Drover]

By the way it has also been shown that withholding sex affects a man's sexual fantasies. Withholding sex tends to lead a man to angrier types of fantasies. I'm guessing that both the type of porn he looks at and the type of sex you get are at least partially driven by the way you treat him and the amount of frustration he feels.

But you know the most interesting thing about this whole thread is where you chose to post it? Did you think the Men's Clubhouse would rally to your point of view?