[in my tree]

"he INSISTS it 's no problem and he can stop anytime..." - you need to tell him that it is a problem especially since he is turning down sex with his own wife. I really don't have more advice than to enforce what others have said about counseling. If he won't go then you will need to think about what it is you want because I doubt seriously that this is something that he will willingly stop since he hasn't done so after being confronted 6 other times. Good luck to you!

 

[in my tree]

Why are you glossing over these things in her situation?

Because whenever porn is involved in a subject some people have to come out to defend all-things-porn related.

Also what SunnyT said in 2 posts previous to costa's:
"It doesn't matter if we agree with OP's view of porn or not. It's about her relationship with her H and what her next step is. "

I couldn't agree more.