[Hopefull363]

As Beach guy asked why do you think he's addicted to porn? How has this affected your sex life? Do you have an active sex life where you are both satisfied?

My husband looks at porn occasionally. I don't mind. He just can't do it on the computers at home. Those sites cause all types of viruses and I don't want my 2 children exposed to it. He does it on his phone. Sometimes we even watch an HBO late night together. Just spices things up.

Now I realize everybody has different views on this. That's why I'm asking how you think it's affected your sex life.

 

[Hopefull363]

Nobody was trying to convince you this was normal. You were asked if it's affecting your sex life. From you answer above IT IS. Everybody is different and what's normal for some may not be normal for others. If it's him that's always turning down sex then counseling is needed because he is getting his fulfillment elsewhere. If you are always turning down sex or don't initiate at all then there's your answer to the porn.

Counseling for either scenario would probably help.

 

[Hopefull363]

Why is counseling out? This seems like something that can be worked on. If you just give in without working on it with him in a way that's conducive to both of you you'll just build up resentment. That will make things even worse.

Most men do lie about porn because they are embarrassed. Even knowing that I didn't have a problem with it as long as it wasn't on the home computers and it didn't take away from our sex life, it took my husband 14 years to admit it.

We've had sex everyday for the last 6 days with both of us having orgasms and I woke up to my husband doing something on his phone at 5 in the morning. I asked him what he was doing? For the first time in our 14 year marriage he said looking at porn. we just had sex before bed and at 5AM I was tired so I said ok and went back to sleep. I was happy he trusted me enough to tell the truth and thankful he let me sleep.

Please go to counseling. This can be worked out.