Give her the divorce. Tell her you want 100% custody. That way she can have her freedom right? Start the 180 (search for it on this site). After you have a settlement exposé her and OM far and wide.
This is not uncommon. It is in fact following the cheaters script to the tee. She is keeping her backup options open in case the guy doesn't work out...She will pursue the relationship with this guy(Read "f*ck his brains out") and will try her hardest to make it work, but will come back to if it fails. her family is right. She is only with you because she has few other options. She is still contacting this. If she needs to miss you to realize your value, you are bettr off without her.It is very sad.
Her family is disgusted by her behavior as is mine. Her parents told her that they wanted nothing to do with her unless she changed. This actually brings me to where I am now. She hasn' t gone out I'm a couple of weeks and I have no evidence of contact with OM but she still wants the divorce, her thoughts are not rational and she seems to have a strong sense of urgency to get her ducks in a row. She says that she would like us to be able to be friends for the kids. She has also mentioned that maybe not being with me will make her realize what she has in me. I feel like she is being very manipulative and is playing head games.
I think this is true.That is what happens when you forgive a cheater so easily. You should have kicked her out the first time you found out and should have got back only after strong effort from her part..Without her doing that, the marriage is doomed anyway..You know, you can take a horse to the lake but you cannot make it drink the water.
Oh I hate that site but you're rightImmediately cut off access to joint credit and stop sharing your paycheck.
Go read doc cool.com about cheaters and the games they play.