I'm so confused.
We've know each other for 24 years ... 10 of them married.
We started our married life both working and the future was looking good. Less than a year after getting married, she starts coming home crying from work the stress was so bad. I was earning a decent income, and agreed with her desire to try creating a home business.
I was a bad idea.
Years went by and it only made enough to support itself. I asked and asked her to help with the load, but there was always a new and improved version of the biz coming that would make things better.
Still a bad concept.
Two years later she joins a group that's very spiritual (to put it nicely).
8 months ago we decide to separate.
Current day is we still live in the same house (me downstairs her up) but she still isn't working and I'm paying for everything!! I'm guessing she's after half of the house and my pension, and I'm almost certain she's aiming for support. I'm holding on a lawyer because I don't have a list of demands to take to him.
I feel like I'm going insane.
I go off to work each day while she's home in bed.
To make things harder, my area at work might be phased out due to a buy out ... and I worry about that to.
I'm 52 and if she takes half of everything, I'm to old to start again, and it's extremely unlikely I'd get a job that pays this well again.
I feel so exhausted thinking about things, and there are times my head goes to some very dark area's.
How do you guys figure out where to start?
Btw ... Thank you for listening. Not many friends and this place feels like I have a place to vent where they get what I mean.
We've know each other for 24 years ... 10 of them married.
We started our married life both working and the future was looking good. Less than a year after getting married, she starts coming home crying from work the stress was so bad. I was earning a decent income, and agreed with her desire to try creating a home business.
I was a bad idea.
Years went by and it only made enough to support itself. I asked and asked her to help with the load, but there was always a new and improved version of the biz coming that would make things better.
Still a bad concept.
Two years later she joins a group that's very spiritual (to put it nicely).
8 months ago we decide to separate.
Current day is we still live in the same house (me downstairs her up) but she still isn't working and I'm paying for everything!! I'm guessing she's after half of the house and my pension, and I'm almost certain she's aiming for support. I'm holding on a lawyer because I don't have a list of demands to take to him.
I feel like I'm going insane.
I go off to work each day while she's home in bed.
To make things harder, my area at work might be phased out due to a buy out ... and I worry about that to.
I'm 52 and if she takes half of everything, I'm to old to start again, and it's extremely unlikely I'd get a job that pays this well again.
I feel so exhausted thinking about things, and there are times my head goes to some very dark area's.
How do you guys figure out where to start?
Btw ... Thank you for listening. Not many friends and this place feels like I have a place to vent where they get what I mean.