But at the same time I realize that I am at the end of my rope. I was brought up to believe that you make your marriage work no matter what. We have been together for 10 years, and have an 8 year old boy together. These are the reasons I was hanging in there for so long. I do think I love him still and care for him deeply as a person. I did not want to hurt him, he wants to stay together and make things work. We have been through a lot together. He always had anger episodes, not physical and not in front of our son, but nevertheless very stressful for me. Also, alcohol problems. Last few years together, we are either very happy or absolutely miserable. It is exhausting. Am I wrong for wanting to take a break? I am finally coming to the conclusion that I should insist on separation. I am looking for a perspective. thank you.