If your wife has thrown the love switch due to repetitive injuries due to your cheating—it will make no difference if you “change” or not. Once her love is gone, it’s gone.
Based on your last post describing why you deserve another chance after you confess to repeated instances of infidelity, I suspect you will do it again once you feel safe.
She will sadly never feel safe, even if you change. Hence, she might be done. If she’s left the home, it’s unlikely she will return. If she hasn’t, your have a chance. Probably your last.
If your wife has thrown the love switch due to repetitive injuries due to your cheating—it will make no difference if you “change” or not. Once her love is gone, it’s gone.
Based on your last post describing why you deserve another chance after you confess to repeated instances of infidelity, I suspect you will do it again once you feel safe.
She will sadly never feel safe, even if you change. Hence, she might be done. If she’s left the home, it’s unlikely she will return. If she hasn’t, your have a chance. Probably your last.
If your wife has thrown the love switch due to repetitive injuries due to your cheating—it will make no difference if you “change” or not. Once her love is gone, it’s gone.
Based on your last post describing why you deserve another chance after you confess to repeated instances of infidelity, I suspect you will do it again once you feel safe.
She will sadly never feel safe, even if you change. Hence, she might be done. If she’s left the home, it’s unlikely she will return. If she hasn’t, your have a chance. Probably your last.
So i am out of the house she is making me stay away till she figures this out. I did spend 5 hours on face time with the kids they left the phone in the room so i can listen and be a part of it. I dont think she has thrown the love switch and she is still thinking it over. I believe i will not do this again and i believe did i not only learn a lesson but it has opened my mind to the help i need. I am currently speaking with two therapist. One is a general one that focuses on ACT Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. This is to better myself. I am also seeing another therapist for marriage counseling and also medication medicine which is something i think i need.
Thanks for the suggestion but a lot has transpired from yesterday and i don't think that is going to make a difference I finally spoke to her last night and it was not good or bad but there was no change she still wants me to stay away and she doesn't want me to go home or reach out. She wants me to continue therapy and i found out yesterday she has been seeing a therapist as well which i am happy about but kind of upset she was hiding it. I tried to tell her last night how i felt and what i wanted but i didn't get the reaction i wanted she was cold and distant and i just want her back i miss her and the kids so much.
It’s really insane living with an adult who needs so much attention from the opposite sex that they just can’t stop. Almost like living with an addict isn’t it?
I notice above you said ‘why should I change if she doesn’t want me’ which makes me think you are already planning ahead and not wanting to change regardless. You’re putting it on her.
I have a suggestion, why didn’t YOU initiate a divorce, or even get married? You’d get to be single so that you can always chat online all day all the time with women? Imagine that - non-stop validation all the time without some annoying wife breathing down your neck and controlling you!
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