But this is something that's been ongoing for years and I've just ignored it and we've continued enjoying a relatively normal marriage, going on lovely extravagant holidays every year, nice house, not a bad sex life.
We've had issues with EAs and the internet in the past, which we've both ignored, so by ignoring it, I guess I've just given out signals that it's ok for him to continue....
He's always worked long hours anyway, rarely home before about 7.30-8pm or even later (12 hour+ days) but now I'm starting to wonder if there's more to it than just "work!"
I decided to phone him tonight at work, yes he was still at work (6.30pm) but he sounded "odd" like he was expecting someone else to call maybe (might just be my suspicious mind) I said I'd done him a nice meal if he was interested and he said he would leave in half an hour.
Usually I don't mind it if it's about 7.30ish (though it's stupidly late) when he's home. But any time after that I get angry and quietly am annoyed, though he doesn't really notice because I try and remain normal when he gets home. He seems to go out for what sounds to be perfectly legitimate social events to do with work (like my own work, they rarely invite OHs) but sometimes these could be another cover for any wrongdoings.
I am afraid and dislike confrontation. I am afraid to know if he's got another woman (he would just deny it anyway) I don't want to disrupt our otherwise cosy life, but I don't fully trust him.
I've had EAs in the past, so he probably doesn't trust me either. Both have had secret email a/cs. He's often done stuff because I've done it. Rather than talk to me and discuss it, he's just seen it as his "green light" to doing same.
It's something we never want to talk about.
What shall I do?
We've had issues with EAs and the internet in the past, which we've both ignored, so by ignoring it, I guess I've just given out signals that it's ok for him to continue....
He's always worked long hours anyway, rarely home before about 7.30-8pm or even later (12 hour+ days) but now I'm starting to wonder if there's more to it than just "work!"
I decided to phone him tonight at work, yes he was still at work (6.30pm) but he sounded "odd" like he was expecting someone else to call maybe (might just be my suspicious mind) I said I'd done him a nice meal if he was interested and he said he would leave in half an hour.
Usually I don't mind it if it's about 7.30ish (though it's stupidly late) when he's home. But any time after that I get angry and quietly am annoyed, though he doesn't really notice because I try and remain normal when he gets home. He seems to go out for what sounds to be perfectly legitimate social events to do with work (like my own work, they rarely invite OHs) but sometimes these could be another cover for any wrongdoings.
I am afraid and dislike confrontation. I am afraid to know if he's got another woman (he would just deny it anyway) I don't want to disrupt our otherwise cosy life, but I don't fully trust him.
I've had EAs in the past, so he probably doesn't trust me either. Both have had secret email a/cs. He's often done stuff because I've done it. Rather than talk to me and discuss it, he's just seen it as his "green light" to doing same.
It's something we never want to talk about.
What shall I do?