My husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for a little less than 1. He has been married before, had a bad experience with the ex, which is why it took us to long to actually make it official. I keep thinking about having children. We have had the discussion many many times, but when my husband was 18, he had a son, who died in a car accident on the way home from the hospital. Very tramatic for him. My husband is self employeed, and about to have surgery, and hasn't worked in awhile. I have a great job, which I absolutely love, and also have a part time job, to pay the bills. Money wise, this is not a good time to have kids, but I feel like if we wait for the "perfect time" it is never going to happen. Plus the husband gets kind of scared when we talk about it, because of losing his son. I don't know what to do, I feel like if I would just get pregnant, we would be so happy, and it would work out, but I feel like if I wait for him to say "ok, lets try" it might never happen... I know it is wrong.. but what if I just stop taking my BC pills. I think it is worse right now too bc I just found out my co-worker is pregnant.