I suck at intimacy and it's ruining my marriage. Physical relationships have never been my strong suit.....most of my pre-marriage sexual encounters were alcohol fueled and plagued with ED & PE issues. I never felt confident about myself sexually. When I met my wife that didn't matter. She was happy to put in 110% to make intimacy a fun thing in our relationship. I thought it was normal for her to always initiate and for the sexual encounter to be done when I was. Unfortunately, I never took the time to identify my own insecurities on the topic so in time they slowly eroded the intimacy in my marriage. I didn't hear my wife ask for me to stay involved. Didn't stay close when she tried to snuggle at night or on the couch and slowly stopped doing the other things that brought her any sexual confidence in us (putting my arm around her waist and pulling her close for example). We got pregnant quickly and despite her efforts to still initiate a physical relationship I continued to pull away. After our baby arrived it was a new set of excuses why I wasn't interested in sex with her. Our entire marriage has been nearly sexless. And now 7 years later I have no idea how to even try to start something. My wife is tired of begging for my affection. She's sad and clearly self-conscious that I've never been able to show her physical love. We've been to counseling and talked about our feelings on the topic a thousand times. She feels like she's a task to me as I only try to kiss her or hold her hand after she's begged for my attention and I've had to add a reminder to my phone. I truly do want to have a romantic relationship. It is my desire to desire her. I'm just not sure how. She tells me to try by saying I'm interested, talking about sex, playing dates, being flirty and playful with her, or trying anything to show I care but after every conversation I walk away paralyzed and do nothing. It's not a winning cycle for us but I don't know what to do.