But you have to right to leave an abusive alcoholic husband. Look in the bible, it does not say that you have to stay for that anywhere..
BluesPower—Yes, I agree with you. I do have issues and have not known what it means to understand my self worth. But it will be difficult leaving because I am the one who cheated. According to Biblical rules, he has the right to divorce me. I do not. I was foolish for going through the affair. I should have done something sooner.
YOU alone will not be able to save this marriage alone, and that is what you may try to do.
No church worth it's salt would encourage a woman to stay with your husband, if they do, they are wrong, find another church.
No one person can fix another person, you can fix you, that is it.
You need to think about your interpretation of what the bible says on this...