My Husband is having an affair. We were together for 8 years and married for 3. Our kids were raised together. I have had 3 Ddays and he convinced me each time that it was nothing. Oh the crazy lies and me believing them. The last one was the final straw. I have asked him to leave and am no longer asking for his love and talking to him all the time. I made so many mistakes and didn't even realize it until I found this site. Every one of the tell tale signs and I made every one of the mistakes. I truly thought we were happy and now the thoughts and pain in my heart. I dunno. Does anyone have any tips on what has helped or how long til my head and heart get better?