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This is going to sound crazy but.... I have been married for 10 years and I think that we have had sex less than 30 times since we have been married. To make the post a little shorter, here are the facts:
1. I have not gained weight.
2. I take really great care of myself.
3. I try to initiate in different ways, sexy clothes, affection, etc with no success.
4. There are financial issues and we are getting through it and it looks hopeful now (I have been working my butt off and I am selling a piece of land to pay off some debt)
5. I am very supportive and listen to him.
6. We have a 7 year old son, not sure how it happened but it was a miracle since we have no sex, like immaculate conception.
7. I am a good mom
8. He travels a lot for work
Before you ask a lot of questions, here is what I asked him to get to the root of the problem:
Q-Do you love me? A-Yes.
Q-Are you in love with me? A-Yes
Q-Are you having an affair? A-No
Q-Do you think I am attractive? A-Yes
Q-What is the problem? A-Stressed Out
Q-Are you punishing me for something? A-No
As for the financial issues, he blames me for them. I cannot imagine why, no kidding. I have had a series of health issues such as diabetes and a really difficult pregnancy that added to our debt. The issues were pretty serious and we did not have maternity insurance so that alone was $40,000. We got hit by two hurricanes that caused damage to our house and property. I am not out shopping at the mall or anything like that. These are unforeseen things that were beyond my control. BUT.... During this mess, my husband went and bought a $50,000 sports car without telling me and I was furious. We could afford it. After a year and a half and $12,000 in car payments, I finally put my foot down and told him to sell it. We did not need or could afford the third car at the time. It never got driven. So, I guess what I am saying is that he says that he is too stressed out to have sex because of money but yet he puts us further in the hole with a stupid car but then blames all of this on me. Am I missing something? Help! I really love him as a person (except for the car incident, he is a pretty good guy), but I am so miserable. It is like getting rejected everyday of my life. I am so lonely. I almost want to have an affair just so some one touches me. I have not been kissed in over 5 years. One of my girlfriends thinks that my husband is nuts. She calls me the "hot mom". I think I am attractive and men seem to hit on me but I want my husband. I still find him attractive. I just want to cry.
1. I have not gained weight.
2. I take really great care of myself.
3. I try to initiate in different ways, sexy clothes, affection, etc with no success.
4. There are financial issues and we are getting through it and it looks hopeful now (I have been working my butt off and I am selling a piece of land to pay off some debt)
5. I am very supportive and listen to him.
6. We have a 7 year old son, not sure how it happened but it was a miracle since we have no sex, like immaculate conception.
7. I am a good mom
8. He travels a lot for work
Before you ask a lot of questions, here is what I asked him to get to the root of the problem:
Q-Do you love me? A-Yes.
Q-Are you in love with me? A-Yes
Q-Are you having an affair? A-No
Q-Do you think I am attractive? A-Yes
Q-What is the problem? A-Stressed Out
Q-Are you punishing me for something? A-No
As for the financial issues, he blames me for them. I cannot imagine why, no kidding. I have had a series of health issues such as diabetes and a really difficult pregnancy that added to our debt. The issues were pretty serious and we did not have maternity insurance so that alone was $40,000. We got hit by two hurricanes that caused damage to our house and property. I am not out shopping at the mall or anything like that. These are unforeseen things that were beyond my control. BUT.... During this mess, my husband went and bought a $50,000 sports car without telling me and I was furious. We could afford it. After a year and a half and $12,000 in car payments, I finally put my foot down and told him to sell it. We did not need or could afford the third car at the time. It never got driven. So, I guess what I am saying is that he says that he is too stressed out to have sex because of money but yet he puts us further in the hole with a stupid car but then blames all of this on me. Am I missing something? Help! I really love him as a person (except for the car incident, he is a pretty good guy), but I am so miserable. It is like getting rejected everyday of my life. I am so lonely. I almost want to have an affair just so some one touches me. I have not been kissed in over 5 years. One of my girlfriends thinks that my husband is nuts. She calls me the "hot mom". I think I am attractive and men seem to hit on me but I want my husband. I still find him attractive. I just want to cry.