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I am 26 and she is 38, is this age difference will create problem if i marry her...

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I am 26 and she is 38, is this age difference will create problem after marriage..?
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Yep.
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CharlieParker
I'd say it likely will become a problem. How big of a problem is hard to say. I'm 44 and she is 50, I think we'll be able to deal with our issues, but 6 years is a lot less than 12.
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Yes. Socially and in terms of having the same goals.
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You're marrying a female. You will have problems. Your age difference will be the least of them.
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What common goals do you have together? What are you hoping to build and achieve as a couple. Specific things, not like ie being together forever, kind of stuff.
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I think stage of life is a bigger issue than chronological age. For instance if she's finished having kids and you're looking forward to it that's a huge issue.

I would say if you're both in the same place and you can stand the scrutiny from outsiders then it can work.
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EnjoliWoman
Good answer MG.

It can work. The biggest AGE-RELATED issue I had w/ ex was we HATED each other's music. He was a huge Beatles fan and I was absolutely NOT. I liked pop music and he looked down his nose at it. There was a little crossover in 80s rock, 70s ballads so tried to compromise on road trips.
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thunderstruck
Yep. I wouldn't do it.

unbelievable said:
You're marrying a female. You will have problems. Your age difference will be the least of them.
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UKLady63
When I started dating my hubby he was 19 and I was 33, and we're still together and happily married,,,so my personal exp has been that it's ot so much an age thing as it is a person thing,,,,Yes there have been challenges, I may have wanted to go out to a nice posh resteraunt, while he'd rather have gone thru the drive thru so he could get back home to his xbox,,,lol,,,but when u love somebody its about give and take,,,Age just like religion,social status, and a million others things can become an issue, but there's no rules that says it has to be. We've been married for 15yrs, he's 34 and I'm 49 and age just doesn't come up anymore.
Hope this was helpfull.....Good Luck...and remember that corny old saying "age aint nuttin but a number":smthumbup:
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BeachGuy
Funny...I just got off the phone with my old college roomate who I haven't talked to in a year. He got divorced 6 years ago, met a woman 12 years younger than him (29 and 41) and married her. They're about to have their second child and he had a son from the first marriage and they're very happy.

My wife has a relative on her side that married a 40 year old man when she was in her early 20's. The family wasn't too happy about it but they're still together and from what I know, happily married (is that an oxymoron???).
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IMO, it's the percentage difference that counts more than the years themselves. At 26 and 38 your life experiences and goals are going to be quite different and, IMO, it could take a lot of commitment to make things work.
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My wife was pre-menopausal at that age. Do you want children? ............Some times people want a much younger marriage partner to make them feel young again.So it may not be YOU she is in love with it might be your YOUTH. (just a thought)

Are you ready for a menopausal woman in a few years? while you are still young? My wife became mean and hard to get along with and she knew it,she wasn't herself.
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My husband first wife was much older than him. He was your age when he married her.
She couldnt have children anymore, and back then he thought he was ok with it. Well, with time, he changed his mind. Her looks also went downhill, when he still looked very attractive.
Fast forwarding some years, she had several strokes and become invalid. Everywhere they went, people thought she was his mother or grandmother.
One day she decided to leave him because "he wasnt romantic, anymore".
Today, he has children of his own and is a lot more successful than he was before. He is also a lot happier (his words, not mine!).
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In_The_Wind
well my wife is 35 i am 50 we have been married for 12 1/2 years if that helps we get along great and have similar interest. when we first started going out she was 21or so I was 38, I even mentioned our age difference and she didnt believe me so i showed her my drivers license lol she said she was ok with it as long as i was
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EnjoliWoman said:
Good answer MG.

It can work. The biggest AGE-RELATED issue I had w/ ex was we HATED each other's music. He was a huge Beatles fan and I was absolutely NOT. I liked pop music and he looked down his nose at it. There was a little crossover in 80s rock, 70s ballads so tried to compromise on road trips.
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So, you're saying he has taste in music and you don't?

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WorkingOnMe
For a man marrying a younger woman the formula for the youngest acceptable is half your age plus 8. As for men marrying cougars, I don't know of any formula. Yes, it's a double standard...but in my uneducated opinion it I think you're playing with fire. The shine is going to wear off pretty quickly.
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FalconKing
I had an GF that was 10 years older. The age difference wasn't an issue except for having kids. But it was other things. I do think though it's more about stages in life. A buddy of mine is always trying to get me to meet some girls at our local college. Some of those girls are absolutely beautiful, but i'm 29. What can look forward to with 18 to 21 year old girls?(besides the obvious:rolleyes:) They are still in school, have not established themselves, still don't know who they are, have no money and some of them drink and party way too much which is something I never even did. We can't share similar things about our youth or life experiences. Some of the things they WILL do I've already done. So then I would just try to guide them to make the best decision I look like a daddy. No thanks to that. Of course there are exceptions.
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WorkingOnMe said:
So, you're saying he has taste in music and you don't?

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Man I would kill to find a woman my age who is as obsessed with 80's music as I am. And I don't mean 80's hair band. I mean Synth-pop and New Wave.
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FalconKing said:
Man I would kill to find a woman my age who is as obsessed with 80's music as I am. And I don't mean 80's hair band. I mean Synth-pop and New Wave.
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Mrs P and I like many of the same bands, but she teases me that she got to many of them live while I was too young.
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