You're spot on.Earlier in the thread I mentioned the 300lb toothless, bearded woman principle.
If we were to reverse genders and a man were to come on here saying he wasn’t interested in sex and found it gross and silly and couldn’t understand what all the fuss was about and he didn’t know why he had no sexual feelings.
People would be telling him to get his hormones checked and to get into therapy to see if he has any childhood issues or past sexual trauma or even questioning his sexual orientation and asking him if he is gay etc.
But then as the thread goes on we found out his wife is 300lbs, toothless and hairy and she sits around all day scarfing entire bags of Oreos and only takes a shower every few weeks whether she needs it or not and doesn’t change or clean her underwear for weeks at a time, we start to understand his lack of attraction.
But also as he goes on to say he reads a lot of books on sexuality and that he has encountered women during his daily life that he wants to rip their clothes of and he is spanking all the time and he writes 30 pages worth of his dysfunctional marriage and how he was never all that attracted to his wife and he doesn’t see her as wife and mother material,,
it becomes easy to see that he is not asexual at all but just feels stuck with a person he is not attracted to and does not have any sexual compatibility with.
Somehow he'd be penalized and told to up his game.