im 38 and my husband is 40. i've been married over 10 years and for the past several years my husband has let me go months at a time without sex. and for even longer than that i've not been able to initiate anything. I've introduced porn movies into the bedroom but i dont know if that is such a great idea. we are currently separated for about 2 months and he swears he can make me happy but i dont think he can. only thing hes shown me since has been crazy behavior and anger and he's blamed everything he can for our separation. long before the separation i randomly ran into an old friend that i hadnt seen in 20 years and we developed a friendship. he has been a good friend to me and tried to help me out with listening to my grief. but since the separation i feel as though he has potential to be so much more of what i want out of a partner. i have feelings for him and he has feeling for me, but he doesnt want to be the cause of the divorce and will be there for me if i do divorce. and if thats not enough... in my husbands eyes, hes now the blame for the separation as well. even though we've never done anything and he doesnt even live in the same state. AND, if that wasnt enough, my husband just had a heart attack this week. i am completely torn and dont know what to do.