Hi, need advice on this. Married for 20 years. All in all, we are best friends and have a great relationship. But my husband wants to join another band. He was in a band in the past and it takes a lot of time away from the family. The band he wants to join plays every weekend throughout the summer, Fri & Sat. 10-13 gigs per month. He is a talented singer and I don't want to crush his dream, but we still have two daughters at home that are 15 & 6. If he joins this band, we won't be able to take a summer vacation together and every New Years Eve will be tied up. The last time he was in a band it was fun for awhile, but I started to resent all of the time he was away. How do I support him when I think it is a mistake? I fear that he will resent me if I say no. I don't feel like I could go to all the gigs with him like the other wives because of our daughters (especially the youngest one). I also feel like it will take away the little time that we have together. All of the other members in the band are older and kids are grown and out of the house. HELP! Really struggling.