When my husband and I met my son lived with my mother. 2 years into our relationship, my son was 9, he came to live with us. My husband never liked him and was glad at 17 when my son moved out. Now my son is 18 and his girlfriend is pregnant. My husband said "I can see what is going to happen, we should just get divorced now" "that kid had f**ked up my life for 8 years and no that he is gone I can see I am still going to be forking out for his mistakes.
I of course will help with my grandchild but my husband feels like he should not have to help. But we are we.
What do I do?
Wow.
So your son bounces from a two year stay at his grandmother's house into your house when he's a mere 9 years of age.
Then....lucky little boy...he gets to spend 8 years with a step-father who doesn't love or even like him. (And worse than that..with a mother who clearly thought that this was an acceptable environment to keep him in)
Gee...I wonder why this kid "f*cked up" at 17?
What do you do?
hmm...
Frankly, it seems like you should've asked yourself this question
years ago
It's interesting, your thread title really says it all: Husband vs Son.
Looks like you picked your husband OVER YOUR son a long, long time ago
Do you think that was the right thing to do?
And if you don't think this was right...(and I hope you don't)...you should work to make this right now...
Ask yourself:
What would A GOOD MOM do in this situation?
And then, grow a backbone, find some courage/character within yourself....and JUST DO IT