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Does anyone else experience this? My husband works 40 hrs a week M-F and drives an hour and 15 min to work and back. The days I am home from work the moment he comes home around 6 he turns the computer on. Most of the time, he will leave the computer to eat dinner, but he eats within 5 mins and then returns back to the game. On the weekdays he will stay on until just about bed time, which could be anywhere between midnight and 1am. Sometimes he'll end up going to sleep after dinner and then wakes up around 11 and plays his game until 1 or 2 am. On the weekends, I'll go to bed alone and he stays up all night and plays until 5 or 6 in the morning. He has been playing this game for 3 years now, but within the last few months he has been staying on overnight while I sleep. I talked to him about it a long time ago and he said he plays the game to get his mind off work. I understand he is stressed out but I am now feeling really lonely and I have expressed my feelings to him recently. We have also recently moved into a house after living 3 years with his parents in our 6 years of marriage. To me, our sex lives should be more active than it use to be, but it's not and possibly even less! Maybe 2 or 3 times a month now? He doesn't help out around the house unless I tell him to do something, which I hate doing, but lately my health hasn't been too great and I fall behind on dishes and clothes. Cars haven't been washed or cleaned in forever. Garbage has been sitting by the front door for the past 3 days and that's usually how long it sits there until he throws it in the community trash. He never does anything and his excuse is that he works more than I do. I work 30 hrs a week and usually work Saturday and Sunday including other days during the week and I feel when I come home all I do is clean up after him in his little corner where his computer is...dishes...socks...beer bottles...trash...SO ANNOYING! The kitchen/trash is not even 10 steps away. I fix his lunches and iron his clothes. His game has no pause button and he wears headphones to talk to people. If I have a question or think about something funny to tell him that happen during my day he usually doesn't hear me at all speak to him or I have to repeat it 2 or 3 times. Sometimes I feel like I am talking to a wall. I've asked him to make one night during the week just for me and that only lasted 2 weeks. We haven't gone out anywhere in a long time. He does go with me for our bi-weekly grocery trip and considers that time out with me. We are trying to save money, but there is a lot of free things to do or even go out for a dinner every now and then. I hate being the one to always come up with things to do. He never can plan anything. Within the past 2 weeks he promised not to stay on the game all night when I come home from work and he just goes and lays on the couch but then he falls asleep in less than a min. Honestly, I don't feel connected anymore. For the longest time I use to cry about it because it made me so mad. Overtime hate started to form and now I have no feelings. I'm not sure what to do anymore. I've tried talking to him and he acts like he understands, but his actions don't show it. Sometimes, if I bring up that he's on too much he gets very angry and bangs the desk. One time he broke the desk. Another time he broke his head phones cause he threw them. I just don't know what to do or say to him anymore...