Seriously? I think a lot of women might've jacked her up right there on the spot for saying that. That's inexcusable. So is your husbands behaviour.
Put him on notice. ZERO contact with this woman or you want him to move out.
Seriously? I think a lot of women might've jacked her up right there on the spot for saying that. That's inexcusable. So is your husbands behaviour.Then yesterday, I was in the shop she works in and when she was serving me, she told me (in front of all the customers) "I woke up to lovely texts from ur husband this morning" she went on to talk about how they had such fun conversations all the time etc. I felt totally humiliated in front of everyone.
On the spot- my foot meets her head. No if's, and's or but's.Seriously? I think a lot of women might've jacked her up right there on the spot for saying that. That's inexcusable. So is your husbands behaviour.
Put him on notice. ZERO contact with this woman or you want him to move out.
:scratchhead: Hmmm I don't know what to make of him...it almost sounds to me like you both are from a generally happy marriage...a settled family...and he's suddenly transformed with the arrival of this girl... like she's fed him some Harry Potter attraction potion or something...He is a lovely man, and a good dad, it's just when this girl is in the picture he seems to change.
He was crying yesterday when I confronted him about it, saying he didnt want 2 lose us, but today he's acting like nothing happened.
This. Remind him of the AGREEMENT you two made, and how his contact with this girl goes BEYOND that boundary. And then, tell him that he has a choice: no further contact with this girl... or leave. No in betweens here either. One or the other. He can choose to honor the vows he made before GOD, or he can have this other woman. And don't back down.Thanks guys for replying, it's good 2 know I'm not just a crazy hormonal pregnant woman over reacting about this!
It seems like every time he's in contact with her, he always gives the excuse that he was counselling her, or giving her advice, but we made a decision a few years ago that to safeguard ourselves and our marriage, I'd be there for the girls and he'd be there for the guys.
She always goes to him though, and other people in our youth have noticed that she targets guys that r 'taken'.
Grrrrr! Makes me so angry! She's a beautiful girl and could have any guy, and she goes for MY husband!
The most hurtful thing, is that no matter how bad she is, he was the 1 who texted her 1st yesterday (and goodness knows when else). He pursued her. Not the other way round.
I'm definitely gonna put down some boundaries and stay strong!
Marriage is hard work some times!
That's beyond F'd up. If a dude told me something like that...I would probably make a complete azz out of myself in front of everyone....she told me (in front of all the customers) "I woke up to lovely texts from ur husband this morning" she went on to talk about how they had such fun conversations all the time etc. I felt totally humiliated in front of everyone.