When he comes home, tell him that he either get mental help or you and the children will be leaving. He most likely suffers from a stress disorder and depression. These disappearances are his way to "escape" the stress. That and he may also be an alcoholic now.
Husband not home again
My husband and I have been together for 14 years. We have two young children. I don't even know where to start. My husband had an affair five years ago. We went to counseling. Things got better.
Since then he goes out several times a year without calling and he'll come home around 7am. He's out drinking. He knows how I feel about this whole situation. It's happening again. His job keeps us abroad and he has been under a lot of stress at work. He goes out on Fridays all night and comes home in the morning crying saying he is confused about his career choice and feels bad that we are not happy living overseas. He feels trapped. We are going on three weeks of this behavior. I told him that the next time he does this I am going to book tickets to leave with the kids. He said he understood and that he wasn't going to stay out like he has been. He says he needs me here. He has agreed he may need help because at times he feels like he is loosing his mind. He can't sleep at night. Not sure if this is a mid age life crises, however he has not gone for help yet.
I have two children and live overseas with not much support. I am at my wits end. I love my husband and want our marriage to survive. In my opinion I have tried to work on our problems, however I can't work on problems with a person that is not here with me. He's not home again. I don't want to leave, however I feel I have no choice. I told him how I felt and he still decided to stay out. I want to be supportive of him and the stress he is under, however I am suffering. I don't know if leaving will wake him up or if I am headed towards a divorce. This whole situation is stressing me out where I can't focus on the kids. I'm starting to feel like a bad mother because I am so wrapped up in my husband not coming home and lack of sleep from staying up all night waiting that I am yelling more at the kids. It's not fair to them
. Any advice of should I stay or enough is enough and book the tickets.
Since then he goes out several times a year without calling and he'll come home around 7am. He's out drinking. He knows how I feel about this whole situation. It's happening again. His job keeps us abroad and he has been under a lot of stress at work. He goes out on Fridays all night and comes home in the morning crying saying he is confused about his career choice and feels bad that we are not happy living overseas. He feels trapped. We are going on three weeks of this behavior. I told him that the next time he does this I am going to book tickets to leave with the kids. He said he understood and that he wasn't going to stay out like he has been. He says he needs me here. He has agreed he may need help because at times he feels like he is loosing his mind. He can't sleep at night. Not sure if this is a mid age life crises, however he has not gone for help yet.
I have two children and live overseas with not much support. I am at my wits end. I love my husband and want our marriage to survive. In my opinion I have tried to work on our problems, however I can't work on problems with a person that is not here with me. He's not home again. I don't want to leave, however I feel I have no choice. I told him how I felt and he still decided to stay out. I want to be supportive of him and the stress he is under, however I am suffering. I don't know if leaving will wake him up or if I am headed towards a divorce. This whole situation is stressing me out where I can't focus on the kids. I'm starting to feel like a bad mother because I am so wrapped up in my husband not coming home and lack of sleep from staying up all night waiting that I am yelling more at the kids. It's not fair to them
. Any advice of should I stay or enough is enough and book the tickets.- Status
1 - 5 of 5 Posts
1 - 5 of 5 Posts
- Status
