Some of you may be familiar with my husband, Hqusafa. We've been having some relationship problems with my weight leading to his not being sexually attracted to me. To be honest, I understand. You should be physically and emotionally attracted to your mate. Unfortunately, after some issues with depression I gained 45 lbs and struggled with various workout and diet programs. I never really succeeded, though, because my heart was never in it due to low self esteem issues from my childhood. But I recently started Lexapro for OCD and found it helped my depression (which I had been denying to myself that I had- didn't want to turn out like my mom). About a month ago everything clicked and I've been working out steadily and have lost 19 lbs from my heaviest (9 from my recent max) so far. I'm less than a pound from my short-term goal and just over 25 lbs from my long-term goal. Unfortunately, everything may have clicked too late. He moved out Monday to get some space to clear his head. Here's my question: How do I show him I've changed, not just for short-term, and how do I appeal to his fitness-loving side?