It has been a little over a month since my husband left. We have been married for 3 years and together for 6. We have a almost 2 year old son and one on the way. When I found out I was pregnant I told my husband and he freaked out. He wouldn't talk to me for a week and told me he was just in shock. Things were going great before this and he even agreed that they were. A week after he found out he said he wanted to divorce and has been thinking about it for 6 months. He said he wasn't inlove with me anymore and that he thought I would be happy about this. I begged and pleaded for him to stay but he left and is staying with his parents.
I had no idea this was coming and just can't believe what he is telling me. I don't want to end our marriage over what I feel like is nothing we can't fix. He won't agree to marriage counseling or anything to try to work on our marriage. I know that we both have our faults and their are some things that I could have done to be a better wife. We have really neglected our marriage and never made time for just us. Six months ago he had to start mandatory overtime at work and was gone from 6am to 9pm and had to work every other Saturday. He has been in a bad mood during that time but I just thought he was tired so I didn't do anything about it knowing that eventually it would be over, and things would go back to normal. I have recently been doing the 180 but not really any signs of improving. He picks up our son on Saturday and brings me groceries for the week since I do not drive and he brings him home on Sunday. When he is here, he is nice and talks to me like he normally would and we sometimes have sex. I had a rough first pregnancy and was on hospital bed rest for 10 weeks. So I am sure that is making him stressed that I am pregnant again. I just don't know what to do. I am trying to focus on myself but its so hard when all I do is miss him. He says he doesn't miss me and has only thought about coming back for our son. I just find this so hard to believe because we have been inseperable since we have been together, so what he is saying must be true. Would love any advice, I just want to save my marriage.
I had no idea this was coming and just can't believe what he is telling me. I don't want to end our marriage over what I feel like is nothing we can't fix. He won't agree to marriage counseling or anything to try to work on our marriage. I know that we both have our faults and their are some things that I could have done to be a better wife. We have really neglected our marriage and never made time for just us. Six months ago he had to start mandatory overtime at work and was gone from 6am to 9pm and had to work every other Saturday. He has been in a bad mood during that time but I just thought he was tired so I didn't do anything about it knowing that eventually it would be over, and things would go back to normal. I have recently been doing the 180 but not really any signs of improving. He picks up our son on Saturday and brings me groceries for the week since I do not drive and he brings him home on Sunday. When he is here, he is nice and talks to me like he normally would and we sometimes have sex. I had a rough first pregnancy and was on hospital bed rest for 10 weeks. So I am sure that is making him stressed that I am pregnant again. I just don't know what to do. I am trying to focus on myself but its so hard when all I do is miss him. He says he doesn't miss me and has only thought about coming back for our son. I just find this so hard to believe because we have been inseperable since we have been together, so what he is saying must be true. Would love any advice, I just want to save my marriage.