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Ok, I will try make this as short as I can. I need help! Tell me to get over this jerk!
We have been married for 5 years. He took a job as a contract worker in Afghanistan a year ago. We just bought our house 5 months ago, to another state so he could be near his brother. His work rotations are 2 months overseas and one month here.
Last time he was home, he secretly spoke with an attorney and then fessed up to me about it. He left to go to his brothers for 3 days. The attorney told him that he was not ready to be divorced and we then decided to go to marriage counseling. Well, we went together once before he went back to Afghanistan. Then, he came back a month ago and we had an appointment with the counselor the day after he got back. He went in to talk to the counselor first and then I went in. As I walked in, I took out my notebook and got prepared to go over things that I wanted to work on. Well, I couldn't even get a word in, he flat out said that he wanted a divorce. I was devastated. The day before he wanted me to a buy a new kitchen table and go shopping. WTH? So, a few days after that,he gave me the silent treatment. I went to the gym and when I came back he was gone. He took all of his personal belongs and left. I know for a fact that he moved in with his brother and his family because the post office mailed a card stating his address has been permanently changed. I have not heard a word from him since. He left to go back to Afghanistan 2 days ago. What the heck? I am an emotional mess. The counselor told me he seems to be narcissistic so I Googled that and it fits him to a T. But how in the world can he do this to me? I hope he is hurting. Hurting more than me. If I knew that he was, that would make this easier for me. He loves to keep me guessing I guess.
Help!!
We have been married for 5 years. He took a job as a contract worker in Afghanistan a year ago. We just bought our house 5 months ago, to another state so he could be near his brother. His work rotations are 2 months overseas and one month here.
Last time he was home, he secretly spoke with an attorney and then fessed up to me about it. He left to go to his brothers for 3 days. The attorney told him that he was not ready to be divorced and we then decided to go to marriage counseling. Well, we went together once before he went back to Afghanistan. Then, he came back a month ago and we had an appointment with the counselor the day after he got back. He went in to talk to the counselor first and then I went in. As I walked in, I took out my notebook and got prepared to go over things that I wanted to work on. Well, I couldn't even get a word in, he flat out said that he wanted a divorce. I was devastated. The day before he wanted me to a buy a new kitchen table and go shopping. WTH? So, a few days after that,he gave me the silent treatment. I went to the gym and when I came back he was gone. He took all of his personal belongs and left. I know for a fact that he moved in with his brother and his family because the post office mailed a card stating his address has been permanently changed. I have not heard a word from him since. He left to go back to Afghanistan 2 days ago. What the heck? I am an emotional mess. The counselor told me he seems to be narcissistic so I Googled that and it fits him to a T. But how in the world can he do this to me? I hope he is hurting. Hurting more than me. If I knew that he was, that would make this easier for me. He loves to keep me guessing I guess.
Help!!