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I have been married for 10 years but have been with my husband for 14 years. We have 4 kids 13, 5, 2 and 1 so you can say we are pretty busy. We are usually busy being parents and make little time to be a couple.
My husband has pretty much always kept work and home seperate and really never talked too much about his co-workers. Recently I noticed he kept bringing up a female co-worker to me. He would say that his friend did this, she went there, she bought that, she would lend him this and I started to think that he talks about this woman quite a bit. I didn't want to let him know that I have caught on to him discussing her but I have. I have also noticed that the last month he was a little distant which caused some major problems but recently I noticed that he has been really sweet and loving again. He still brings this woman up even though she recently was laid off and does not work with him anylonger. They recently became friends on Facebook and she seems to "Like" everything he posts. Even the pics of him and I together so she knows that he is married.
I recently found some texting between him and her, it was mostly professional, her asking if anyone else has been laid off or if he knows anyone at other companies that he may be able to put a good word in with for her. The texting went on for a few days and I noticed that there seems to have been some missing texts in the conversation, certain texts were deleted. I did notice that an address was texted to my husband and I believe it was hers. I can usually account for my husbands whereabouts. He leaves that house at 8am (for work) and is home before 5pm (after work) everyday. He never goes anywhere else.
My husband was talking about his co-worker again and told me that when she was laid off he helped pack her stuff up and he felt so bad. When he was texting her, he told her that he was there for her. I know that I should follow my intuition and I know that there are some obvious red flags but when or how should I react or am I making too much out of it?
The funny thing is he did not have a name for her in the beginning. He just kept talking about "his friend." He mentioned her name for the first time this weekend.
This is what throws me off though.
1. He was distant but now he is sweet and loving again.
2. He posted a picture of him and I on our anniversary on his FB and she "Liked" it.
3. He changed his profile pic to a picture of him and I together so he is portraying a happy marriage.
BUT, he still brings her up a lot and they were texting. Not sure of what to think. Confused.
My husband has pretty much always kept work and home seperate and really never talked too much about his co-workers. Recently I noticed he kept bringing up a female co-worker to me. He would say that his friend did this, she went there, she bought that, she would lend him this and I started to think that he talks about this woman quite a bit. I didn't want to let him know that I have caught on to him discussing her but I have. I have also noticed that the last month he was a little distant which caused some major problems but recently I noticed that he has been really sweet and loving again. He still brings this woman up even though she recently was laid off and does not work with him anylonger. They recently became friends on Facebook and she seems to "Like" everything he posts. Even the pics of him and I together so she knows that he is married.
I recently found some texting between him and her, it was mostly professional, her asking if anyone else has been laid off or if he knows anyone at other companies that he may be able to put a good word in with for her. The texting went on for a few days and I noticed that there seems to have been some missing texts in the conversation, certain texts were deleted. I did notice that an address was texted to my husband and I believe it was hers. I can usually account for my husbands whereabouts. He leaves that house at 8am (for work) and is home before 5pm (after work) everyday. He never goes anywhere else.
My husband was talking about his co-worker again and told me that when she was laid off he helped pack her stuff up and he felt so bad. When he was texting her, he told her that he was there for her. I know that I should follow my intuition and I know that there are some obvious red flags but when or how should I react or am I making too much out of it?
The funny thing is he did not have a name for her in the beginning. He just kept talking about "his friend." He mentioned her name for the first time this weekend.
This is what throws me off though.
1. He was distant but now he is sweet and loving again.
2. He posted a picture of him and I on our anniversary on his FB and she "Liked" it.
3. He changed his profile pic to a picture of him and I together so he is portraying a happy marriage.
BUT, he still brings her up a lot and they were texting. Not sure of what to think. Confused.