I love him dearly, but I have an issue with his constant career quitting. We both work in the arts. While I don't make a huge amount, I've always worked and supported myself in my field, while he has had a number of jobs and different career paths, all of which he's quit. Never fired or lack of opportunity, always quits. From working in film, to nature conservancy to teaching, he has never stayed on one path for more than 3 years or so. I knew this about him before we were married, I just figured that he was finding his way.
Well recently he decided he wanted to go back to school for music. Music has been the one constant thing in his life and he's incredibly talented. He was embraced at his university and even offered a teaching job at the schools community program, even though this job usually requires a degree.
Well, the workload has taken a toll on him, we hardly ever have time to do anything together, and he never has time to hang out with friends. He's said that he's miserable and wants to quit. Well, it's only been ONE semester, of course it's hard. I am NOT okay with him quitting. We had to move, I had to change some of my career plans, and we took out loans and paid money for this. Plus I'm sure if he quits school he will lose his job.
I'm so angry at him for this. Am I wrong? He says in his heart he knows he should quit, that love and our marriage should come first, before work and success. But I think that's just something he's using so I can't argue back. We are in our early 30s, I think it's time for him to choose a path and stick to it.
Well recently he decided he wanted to go back to school for music. Music has been the one constant thing in his life and he's incredibly talented. He was embraced at his university and even offered a teaching job at the schools community program, even though this job usually requires a degree.
Well, the workload has taken a toll on him, we hardly ever have time to do anything together, and he never has time to hang out with friends. He's said that he's miserable and wants to quit. Well, it's only been ONE semester, of course it's hard. I am NOT okay with him quitting. We had to move, I had to change some of my career plans, and we took out loans and paid money for this. Plus I'm sure if he quits school he will lose his job.
I'm so angry at him for this. Am I wrong? He says in his heart he knows he should quit, that love and our marriage should come first, before work and success. But I think that's just something he's using so I can't argue back. We are in our early 30s, I think it's time for him to choose a path and stick to it.