I think you just have to sit down and talk it out...what you expect...what he expects...do you still share the same ideas and dreams.Imo the fact that he now occupies another bedroom and he doesn't talk much can be partly attributed to the fact that his life is lived in two entirely different lifestyles.He did choose however to be married and to my mind there comes an obligation to recognize your needs as well,so I don't think you're expecting too much in wanting him to be present with you when he is actually present...it seems only natural.As far as taking ADD meds when you don't have ADD...that's wrong and there are side effects.When you're having problems you have to be able to communicate with one another openly and honestly and with respect for one another...I hope you find the way to do this and maybe the best time to approach it is in that first week home when he may be more amenable and receptive to discussing your concerns.Good luck and I hope things work out for you and your husband.Take care.