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Omg poir man he has ED and now dementia and i am a selfish ***** and i want sex lol lol maybe if he had dementia he would forget he has Ed and that would fix the problen Seriously idk wat to do not getting sex is driving me up the wall
 

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Hi i am new my husband is an arse -no sex plays stupid mind games i just told him i am moving out of our bedroom he didnt even say a thing good i am as good as gone
Tell us more.....your opening line speaks alot...no sex? Been there. Plays games? Sounds like resentment and he is holding you accountable so he is going to withhold what you want from him. Lived it for 27 years. Look up "passive-aggressive" online and see if this fits the description of your husband.
 

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@Rejectedliver I think that before we can offer meaningful advice, we need more information.

For example has he always been an arse? Do you have any children, etc?
Children grown up -no hw hasnt always been an arse but the lack of sex and his unwillingness to do anything about it is driving me insane i dont want to not have sex ever again -
 

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Been to councelling ok mind games ok eg like if i ask him something he will say yes or no giving the I'm pression that the actual item or whatever is lets say he doesnt have it But in reality it might be not in his actual possession but yes its in the car so yes he did bring it -of like the other day he says going to mcdonalds to get some dinner i didnt really want anything but he said i am not going to drive through till i decide ok we get to the windos he orders me a coffee sone chips -doesnt order himself anything -ok thsts odd cause he sajd he was there to get something for dinner -So i said you didnt order anything he said no i am going to have pizza at home What the i o ly irdered it cause i was prezzured into it and cause he said he was getting dinner for himself am i dumb ???


Is he manipulating you into eating McDonald’s instead of having sex? I can’t quite grasp the problem.


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I dont get how his response to I am moving out of our bedroom is to say nothing to just have no response at all i just dont get it
 

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Lol lol lol i think hes fattening me up so i wont want it idk its an example of stoopid games he plays like when i told him i amoving out of the bedroom he said nothing not a thing - i asked him like u care so little and his reply if u have made up ur mind nothing i say eill change it
 

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I dont get how his response to I am moving out of our bedroom is to say nothing to just have no response at all i just dont get it
Instead of ruminating how he can be such an ass, take this for what it is... your answer. He is telling you his stance on things and his feelings when he gives no response and appears not to care. He doesn't. So there is your ticket to get out. In the long run it just doesn't matter HOW or WHY he is like this, he just IS, and it hurts and alienates you. Grab that ticket and get the hell out.
 

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I'll be frank. I have trouble following your posts. They are brief and don't always follow the questions asked. Obviously he is ED because he can't get an erection. The question posed is WHY can't he get an erection? Diabetes, obesity, bad health, psychological causes?

I am not sure if English is not your first language. But I am not even sure what you are saying at times. Do you and your husband communicate, or do you tend to just talk AT him? Have you TOLD him clearly what you need, or do you just move out and expect him to say something and get it?
 

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I'll be frank. I have trouble following your posts. They are brief and don't always follow the questions asked. Obviously he is ED because he can't get an erection. The question posed is WHY can't he get an erection? Diabetes, obesity, bad health, psychological causes?

I am not sure if English is not your first language. But I am not even sure what you are saying at times. Do you and your husband communicate, or do you tend to just talk AT him? Have you TOLD him clearly what you need, or do you just move out and expect him to say something and get it?
Lol lol i forget sometimes to put the quote in or i forget to make the reply to the person etc - He has ED probs because of diabetes but he had it b4 he was diagnosed with it We have seriously discussed it . Basically nothing helps he refuses to try anything else so he wont try and he makes no attempt - he doesnt want to be pressured so i have to back off whilst i am going nuts wanting it - it is very difficult
 

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Lol lol i forget sometimes to put the quote in or i forget to make the reply to the person etc - He has ED probs because of diabetes but he had it b4 he was diagnosed with it We have seriously discussed it . Basically nothing helps he refuses to try anything else so he wont try and he makes no attempt - he doesnt want to be pressured so i have to back off whilst i am going nuts wanting it - it is very difficult - he also doesnt have any libido and he is not interested in any intimate act of any kind
 

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Instead of ruminating how he can be such an ass, take this for what it is... your answer. He is telling you his stance on things and his feelings when he gives no response and appears not to care. He doesn't. So there is your ticket to get out. In the long run it just doesn't matter HOW or WHY he is like this, he just IS, and it hurts and alienates you. Grab that ticket and get the hell out.
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Can you provide more info;

From when things were good, when things changed, how did he start becoming a butt, when did you start talking with him on his "buttness", does he have medical issues he's sensitive about perhaps, and the last time you had sex, what finally brought on all this coming to a head?

25 yrs married indicates some good times, what were the turns for the worse?

Kindly, can you use more punctuation and paragraphs?

Best,
 

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Lol lol i forget sometimes to put the quote in or i forget to make the reply to the person etc - He has ED probs because of diabetes but he had it b4 he was diagnosed with it We have seriously discussed it . Basically nothing helps he refuses to try anything else so he wont try and he makes no attempt - he doesnt want to be pressured so i have to back off whilst i am going nuts wanting it - it is very difficult
So, he isn't actually being an arse, he is suffering from a debilitating and potentially life-threatening illness that means he can't get an erection?

And it is possible that his pre-diabetes ED might have been caused by diabetes, but that his diabetes might not have been diagnosed early enough.

And I do have a dog in this race, as I have Type 2 Diabetes so I am aware of the problems that can arise. (No pun intended, that just slipped out.)

You both need to see his diabetes nurse and a diabetes specialist at the hospital.

I hope you can both move forward as a happy and non-frustrated happy couple. :)
 
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