OK, in your opinion, what should the OP do to extradite herself from this man then?
What steps should she take in your opinion.
Husband is addicted
We have been together for 7 years and married for 6 years in the beginning when he would be the big bad biker guy it was sexy in the bedroom. But now that we have two daughters and he wants me to dress in see through and micro mini skirts in front of them I just can’t do that. I take pictures for him and him only (naked) and pics of us together then two years ago I find him on a swingers site trying to set us up and sharing my pictures with strange men. He said he was sorry and that he would quit. Of course I find it again a year later. This time he is pretending to be me and getting videos of men jacking off to my photos. When I confront him he just says that he likes the way men respond to my photos it makes him feel more like a man. I told him it makes me feel violated. He swore to me he would never do it again. Granted on there he hasn’t that I know of but now I find out he is sharing photos of me and videos and getting some in return from his friends and their wife for the past two years along with offer me up to have sex with his friend!!!!! When I confronted him he just said it’s because his friend and his friends wife are going through some things and his friend hasn’t been laid in over a year I told him I don’t care!!!!!! Of course this just happened. On another page if I don’t have sex with him daily or allow him to rub on me in my intimate parts even in front of the kids continuously then I get the guilt trips or he gets angry or the continuously jacking off 4-5 times a day. What do I do???
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What steps should she take in your opinion.
If he is indeed dangerous, she should seek advice and help from support organization for battered women near her. Since she evidently has no nearby family to turn to ( she cares for her mother and her brother is deceased )OK, in your opinion, what should the OP do to extradite herself from this man then?
What steps should she take in your opinion.
Do a search online for “Safe Escape Strategies to use When Escsping an Abusive Marriage”
She should begin accumulating funds in an individual escape account. She should get a separate smartphone that her husband has no access to.
This is a long, complex, dangerous process.
Hopefully the husband is indeed a “kind man” pretending to be a bad boy and not the reverse.
Your husband is very bad. I think you need to take advice from your lawyer and parents. And you can also complain to his parents because he is not treating you as a wife.
Post your name and address so we can have you and your husband arrested for sexual exploitation of your kids.
He is sick in the head having you dress sexually and performing sex acts in front of your kids. He needs to be buried under the jail.
You have failed to protect your kids by going along with it. You need to be in jail as well.
It sounds like your husband, with your help, is grooming your daughters to sexually abuse them.
He is sick in the head having you dress sexually and performing sex acts in front of your kids. He needs to be buried under the jail.
You have failed to protect your kids by going along with it. You need to be in jail as well.
It sounds like your husband, with your help, is grooming your daughters to sexually abuse them.
OMG I really feel for you right now.. I have a husband who always seems to need things pushed a bit farther every time and it just makes it harder and harder for me to accept each new extreme. Please know that you don't deserve this treatment and I honestly think his next step is to push you into being with INE of these men he's been sharing your personal pictures and videos with. He's been hiding this for two years now how much more is he hiding
You should be treated better and protected by him not shown around like a flavor or the week ..he needs to treat you like his wife
You should be treated better and protected by him not shown around like a flavor or the week ..he needs to treat you like his wife
We have been together for 7 years and married for 6 years in the beginning when he would be the big bad biker guy it was sexy in the bedroom. But now that we have two daughters and he wants me to dress in see through and micro mini skirts in front of them I just can’t do that. I take pictures for him and him only (naked) and pics of us together then two years ago I find him on a swingers site trying to set us up and sharing my pictures with strange men. He said he was sorry and that he would quit. Of course I find it again a year later. This time he is pretending to be me and getting videos of men jacking off to my photos. When I confront him he just says that he likes the way men respond to my photos it makes him feel more like a man. I told him it makes me feel violated. He swore to me he would never do it again. Granted on there he hasn’t that I know of but now I find out he is sharing photos of me and videos and getting some in return from his friends and their wife for the past two years along with offer me up to have sex with his friend!!!!! When I confronted him he just said it’s because his friend and his friends wife are going through some things and his friend hasn’t been laid in over a year I told him I don’t care!!!!!! Of course this just happened. On another page if I don’t have sex with him daily or allow him to rub on me in my intimate parts even in front of the kids continuously then I get the guilt trips or he gets angry or the continuously jacking off 4-5 times a day. What do I do???
well said and I agree 110%. I find it extremely troubling that he continues this even in front of his daughters. As sick and twisted as this is going to sound I would bet a coke it’s true. In his fantasy world he has some type of sexual thing drawn up and in this fantasy his daughters are a part of it. I’m not meaning they are involved in sex with him but more like he pictures them watching or he forces them to watch. I know that’s twisted but foreplay in front of your daughters is really twisted tooHe sure is a great friend to his horny buddy, but has less than zero respect for his wife. He really doesn't seem to value you more than just a piece of meat. For your sake and for your daughters you have to get out of there. He's a filthy example of a man and you DO NOT want your daughters to think this is normal and acceptable behavior.
BINGOPost your name and address so we can have you and your husband arrested for sexual exploitation of your kids.
He is sick in the head having you dress sexually and performing sex acts in front of your kids. He needs to be buried under the jail.
You have failed to protect your kids by going along with it. You need to be in jail as well.
It sounds like your husband, with your help, is grooming your daughters to sexually abuse them.
I know what you are saying about she doesn’t deserve this treatment but as long as she doesn’t expect better and even demand better he has proven things are only getting worse. Once the daughters enter the picture it becomes a totally different story. As one already said if she allows him to do this in front of their daughters she’s as guilty as he is there. What’s wrong with saying…. I’m not saying no. I’m actually saying Hell no!!! That’s going to end nowOMG I really feel for you right now.. I have a husband who always seems to need things pushed a bit farther every time and it just makes it harder and harder for me to accept each new extreme. Please know that you don't deserve this treatment and I honestly think his next step is to push you into being with INE of these men he's been sharing your personal pictures and videos with. He's been hiding this for two years now how much more is he hiding
You should be treated better and protected by him not shown around like a flavor or the week ..he needs to treat you like his wife
Yeah 5 times a day has no choice other than being a problem. That’s just not normal by any standardsHe wants you to dress provocatively in front of your daughters?!?!?! ..... This has more red than the chinese communist flag. In my opinion, he needs medical help from a psychiatrist today. He seems like a sex addict and borderline child predator.
I don't believe there is anything off limits in the bedroom between two married people who are into it. But him trying to farm you out like a pimp to friends is about as low and disrespectful as it gets right above physical abuse.
You need to get off this forum and get those kids out of there and lay down some rules with him..... 4-5 times a day masturbating, I didn’t even do that when I was a pimple faced glass of testosterone discovering porn at 15 lol.
Or simply have him charged for exposing the daughters to his screwed up sex world. UnbelievableThere are different ways you can deal with the tracker issue.
Do you have an office or other private place at your job where you could do phone appointments?
- You could just remove it and tell him that you are not ok with it any longer. Just stand up to him on this issue.
- These days a lot of attorneys are ok with zoom meetings (or other types of video calls). You might not need to go their office. If you feel you can't do this on your cell phone 'cause your husband can find o9ut about the call, get a burner phone.
- You could just leave your cell phone at work, or with someone you know, while you go to an appointment with your attorney.
- You could choose an attorney whose office is near a place you would go shopping. Park your car at the store and walk or take an uber to the attorney's office. Or maybe an attorney near your doctor's office.
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