[Rus47]

We have been together for 7 years and married for 6 years in the beginning when he would be the big bad biker guy it was sexy in the bedroom.

Sad to say, but you got what you went after. The whole enchilada. The bad boy aint so great now. Being a bad boy he is doing what the bad ones do. Isnt passing “the old lady” around to rest of guys in the club part of the deal? Why are you surprised.

Hope you aren’t living in the situation in “Hotel California”. Your bad boy n his buddies could make life unpleasant if you try to leave.

 

[Rus47]

You don't have to leave your home. But you can get out of your marriage. You need to see a lawyer who can help you end this marriage and get him and his kids out of your house.

Trouble is she is in situation similar to member trying to leave the mob. Lawyers n law enforcement are no help. She will need to secretly carefully plan her escape. Similar to going into witness protection. Having two kids that aren’t hers complicates the exit even more.

Stories about women trying to escape in local news nearly every night.

A cautionary story for anyone thinking to hook up with a bad boy ( or girl)

 

[Rus47]

Maybe call an attorney or the cops to see what could be done to him, arrest him or something.

i cant tell you how many cases on just our local news where doing what you suggest has resulted in MAJOR escalation by the perpetrator.

IMO that is a very bad idea. OP surely knows how much violence her bad boy is capable of. Besides threatening his creds with his gang friends from her not performing porn on command, she is now going to have him arrested??!! Do you have any idea how long person arrested for even murder stays locked up before bonding out? They often are back on the street seeking revenge before cops finish their paperwork.

 

[Rus47]

When I met my husband he was a very kind gentle man he only played the bad boy image in the bedroom with me. Never showed it outside until after we got married. Otherwise there would have never had been a wedding once we were married all of a sudden within 6 months we had full custody of his kids and he did a 360. I had no idea what was going on.

Ok, so which "persona" is the "real" husband and which is the act? Did he play the kind/gentle man to reel you in and get custody of his kids, or did he play the bad boy as in role-playing? Do you know any of his history before you met him? Has he spent time in the big house?

From your original post the mental picture I had was of a biker dude with all of the trappings and you liked the fast lane. My apologies, because from this post it seems you thought you were getting kind and gentle who could play the bad boy, but instead ended up with the bad boy wanting to hand you off to his buddies and sell you in porn videos.

If he just plays a bad boy but actually doesn't have the real capability, then by all means you need to get an attorney and file for D, stay in your house and kick him out. If he has custody of his girls then assume you have no custody rights at all. When they are old enough, they will have a say in where they live, If he is ACTUALLY a bad dude who is also a con-artist (a real possibility), I would advise extreme caution in how you extricate yourself from this situation. I sincerely hope it is the first situation, but in any case, there isn't anything you want to stay with. Run as fast as you can!

 

[Rus47]

OK, in your opinion, what should the OP do to extradite herself from this man then?

What steps should she take in your opinion.

If he is indeed dangerous, she should seek advice and help from support organization for battered women near her. Since she evidently has no nearby family to turn to ( she cares for her mother and her brother is deceased )

Do a search online for “Safe Escape Strategies to use When Escsping an Abusive Marriage”

She should begin accumulating funds in an individual escape account. She should get a separate smartphone that her husband has no access to.

This is a long, complex, dangerous process.

Hopefully the husband is indeed a “kind man” pretending to be a bad boy and not the reverse.