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Before we got married my husband (been married 3 months) was "drunk" and flirted with a 15 year old girl via text and phone. I found out about his through the girls mother. I was freaked out about it so I asked my Husband (then boyfriend) and he confirmed it. Said he was drunk and it was stupid, but it continued for a few days afterwards. He has always been with older woman (besides one younger in her 20's). So I do not think he has a "fetish" for teens, but I was/am still freaked out about it and cant get over it. I cant help to think he may leave me some day for a younger girl. He says he loves me and that will never happen, but every time we are out and around teens, it makes me uneasy, and I think he is staring at them. Never "caught" him, but still. He always comments when I wear really "girly" stuff like bows and polka dots on my underwear. For Halloween he pointed out a "younger" looking costume. Is it all in my head? Like I said he told me he prefers older women, but I dont know!
 

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Before we got married my husband (been married 3 months) was "drunk" and flirted with a 15 year old girl via text and phone. I found out about his through the girls mother. I was freaked out about it so I asked my Husband (then boyfriend) and he confirmed it. Said he was drunk and it was stupid, but it continued for a few days afterwards. He has always been with older woman (besides one younger in her 20's). So I do not think he has a "fetish" for teens, but I was/am still freaked out about it and cant get over it. I cant help to think he may leave me some day for a younger girl. He says he loves me and that will never happen, but every time we are out and around teens, it makes me uneasy, and I think he is staring at them. Never "caught" him, but still. He always comments when I wear really "girly" stuff like bows and polka dots on my underwear. For Halloween he pointed out a "younger" looking costume. Is it all in my head? Like I said he told me he prefers older women, but I dont know!
Unfortunately, some men do like to look at younger "women". Unfortunately, some of those younger "women" are really still girls. Fortunately, if they act upon their urges they will go to jail and get in a heap of trouble (if not beat the hell up by the girl's father and uncles).

The whole incident with the 15 year old...not cool. I can totally understand your paranoia.

A lot of men are pigs and there is a reason there is such a big market for sexy school-girl costumes. If you want to stay with him and can stomach it, please him by wearing the polka-dots or youthful costumes. This may just be the ticket for keeping things exciting in your marriage. If you are creeped out by it and can't handle it, try IC and MC if you feel the need.

Good luck!
 

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Sorry....but your right to be paranoid. Its a bit creepy but I honestly would only start being concerned if it happened again. Also I would say embrase the younger costume or that your husband likes certain things. It could be fun! ;)

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I am paying attention to see if it happens again, I have not noticed anything. So I do not think he is a "pedophile". Thats just crazy. Maybe it was just a one time stupid thing
 

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Unfortunately, some men do like to look at younger "women". Unfortunately, some of those younger "women" are really still girls. Fortunately, if they act upon their urges they will go to jail and get in a heap of trouble (if not beat the hell up by the girl's father and uncles).

The whole incident with the 15 year old...not cool. I can totally understand your paranoia.

A lot of men are pigs and there is a reason there is such a big market for sexy school-girl costumes. If you want to stay with him and can stomach it, please him by wearing the polka-dots or youthful costumes. This may just be the ticket for keeping things exciting in your marriage. If you are creeped out by it and can't handle it, try IC and MC if you feel the need.

Good luck!
I'd be greatly forced to say that he just has an affinity for wanting to wear orange jump-suits! In fact, they can become so very striking and comfortable, that given the proper evidenciary circumstances, the State may just decide not to give him anything else other than those to have in his new wardrobe!
 

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I'm sorry but a 36 year old having a 15 year olds phone number and texting and calling? That is beyond creepy and something that I don't think should just be overlooked. No 36 year old has any business ever doing that.
 

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How much does he know your insecurity towards he act? How much do you guys talk about this subject?
What need to happen for you to feel happy in your relationship?
 

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I am paying attention to see if it happens again, I have not noticed anything. So I do not think he is a "pedophile". Thats just crazy. Maybe it was just a one time stupid thing
Do you have children? Try to visualize what a 15 year old is actually like and their maturity level, it's not crazy. Pedophiles don't just go after little kids. A 15 year old may not be elementary but it is still a child.
 

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I'm sorry but a 36 year old having a 15 year olds phone number and texting and calling? That is beyond creepy and something that I don't think should just be overlooked. No 36 year old has any business ever doing that.
I do agree... :scratchhead:
 

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Do you have children? Try to visualize what a 15 year old is actually like and their maturity level, it's not crazy. Pedophiles don't just go after little kids. A 15 year old may not be elementary but it is still a child.
Has the OP watched Lolita? Could be an eye opener.
 

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What did the teen's Mother say when she contacted to you?

Check his computer for teen porn.

He said he was drunk but then continued to text her for a few days when he was sober? I would have postponed the wedding but too late for you.
 

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How did he know this girl, and get her number? Did he know how young she was before he was doing that?

Details may change my opinion, however that is truly creepy and disturbing, quite clearly into immoral (pedophile) territory.
 

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Before we got married my husband (been married 3 months) was "drunk" and flirted with a 15 year old girl via text and phone.
Totally cool as long as she was cute :D
Why did he have her number in the first place? Did he ask for her number while sober on a previous day or did he ask while drinking with her? Both seem a little unusual.


but it continued for a few days afterwards.
He was cruising for sex while dating you and you still married him?
 

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Yuck. My daughter is 13 and i just read this to my husband and he said he's surprised the man is still alive cause he would have killed any pervy 36 year old man texting our child.

He knew she was 15, right? Why did the mother tell you? This wasn't a red flag for you?
 

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Uh...yeah, that is kind of creepy. He's allowed to think a 15-year old girl is cute, and it's okay to look...but flirting with her over text? He shouldn't be acting on it! He's the adult, not her.

I'd totally be creeped out if my boyfriend did something like this.

However, the dressing up thing might be kind of fun, depending on whether you can stomach it (as someone else said above).
 

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This is some out of line crap... To think a 15 year old looks good is very much possible, because some can't really be physically distinguished from a grown woman, but to flirt while knowing she is 15... Creep factor at max. Surprised the girl's father didn't gun down for him.

I have a daughter, if something like this ever happens i'll be doing damage for sure.
 

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wow,

i am pretty much your husbands age, i will go out on a limb here and will honestly admit that i have seen many younger girls over the years that i have found to be very attractive,

although they were all probably alot older than 15, but sometimes very difficult to tell these days when girls seem to be developing younger and younger,

but looking is alot different than acting upon those urges,

any older male that says he does not look at younger females is either lying or gay, younger females will always be attractive to a male, doesnt matter how old the male is,

i will be looking at younger females till the day i die,

however, the difference between me and your husband is, i am a grown mature man, and i know that talking to, or flirting with a girl of that age would be inappropriate, wrong, disturbing, and creepy,

drinking would be no excuse,

if he flirted with her AFTER he already KNEW she was 15, that would be even more disturbing,
 
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