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My husband and I met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly. For the first year, he was attentive to my needs, caring, patient, supportive, and affectionate.
Then I got pregnant!
He choked me when I was 4 months pregnant, then the abuse continued throughout my pregnancy til my son was 6 months old.
I always stayed hoping he would go back to the way he used to be. Then, I found out he was talking to other women, going to bars with them, and lying about his relationship with me.
He began verbally abusing me and the physical abuse worsened.
My pregnancy was lonely and miserable as he isolated me from family and friends.
Just recently, he started talking to his ex about getting back with her. I brought it to his attention and it turned into a huge fight.
I never had to "snoop" for evidence because it was always there for me to see. When I would leave for work, his ex would show up. He would blame the fighting on me for not trusting his judgment and for questioning him as the man of the house.
He threatened me and my family, broke all my belongings, left thousands of dollars in property damage at our first apartment together, and never let me leave without his permission.
He said I couldn't have friends, but he could talk to anyone he wants, females included.
I finally stood up for myself by calling the cops and following through with pressing charges.
Now, I feel confused. I know that everything he did was wrong and I shouldnt have let it go on for so long, but I am heartbroken. I always thought that if I changed, things would go back to the way they used to be. And if i just kept my mouth shut about his infidelities, that he would have no reason to hit, kick, punch, slap, toss, or choke me.
I am devastated at the loss of a love that could have been.
He alienated me for so long that it was all I knew. And now that he's gone, I feel alone. Even though my family has been an excellent support system, I feel like I am incomplete.
I have filed for divorce and have every intention of following through with it. I don't want to be in an abusive relationship with no opinion, no future, no respect, and no love. But why am I feeling this way?
Im fine during the day as I surround myself and my son with family, but at night, I bawl my eyes out for hours because I miss him... PLEASE HELP.
My husband and I met through a mutual friend and hit it off instantly. For the first year, he was attentive to my needs, caring, patient, supportive, and affectionate.
Then I got pregnant!
He choked me when I was 4 months pregnant, then the abuse continued throughout my pregnancy til my son was 6 months old.
I always stayed hoping he would go back to the way he used to be. Then, I found out he was talking to other women, going to bars with them, and lying about his relationship with me.
He began verbally abusing me and the physical abuse worsened.
My pregnancy was lonely and miserable as he isolated me from family and friends.
Just recently, he started talking to his ex about getting back with her. I brought it to his attention and it turned into a huge fight.
I never had to "snoop" for evidence because it was always there for me to see. When I would leave for work, his ex would show up. He would blame the fighting on me for not trusting his judgment and for questioning him as the man of the house.
He threatened me and my family, broke all my belongings, left thousands of dollars in property damage at our first apartment together, and never let me leave without his permission.
He said I couldn't have friends, but he could talk to anyone he wants, females included.
I finally stood up for myself by calling the cops and following through with pressing charges.
Now, I feel confused. I know that everything he did was wrong and I shouldnt have let it go on for so long, but I am heartbroken. I always thought that if I changed, things would go back to the way they used to be. And if i just kept my mouth shut about his infidelities, that he would have no reason to hit, kick, punch, slap, toss, or choke me.
I am devastated at the loss of a love that could have been.
He alienated me for so long that it was all I knew. And now that he's gone, I feel alone. Even though my family has been an excellent support system, I feel like I am incomplete.
I have filed for divorce and have every intention of following through with it. I don't want to be in an abusive relationship with no opinion, no future, no respect, and no love. But why am I feeling this way?
Im fine during the day as I surround myself and my son with family, but at night, I bawl my eyes out for hours because I miss him... PLEASE HELP.