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Back story: my husband is about 60/70 lbs overweight, newly diagnosed diabetic (9 months ago), dropped 40 lbs following diagnosis, gained back about 10. Hits the gym fairly regularly. Doesn't keep up with his diet much. He's been overweight the entire time I've known him, I have never had any issues with it at all. He has major self esteem issues because of his weight but struggles to put and keep the weight off.
The issue:
Today we're out shopping and husband picks up a slice of cake, I didn't care or even realize he had done it until we're in the checkout lane. As our items are being bagged, I noticed the cake and wanted to see it ( cake always piques my interest a tad). as I reach into the bag to grab it, my husband sort of pushes my hand away and says he doesn't want me to see it. Um...ok? I reach in agin just to look at it and he grabs the bag so I can't see it. Which makes me frustrated so I ask... what's the big deal, I only want to see it, I might want to get a slice for myself. All this is happening in the line and the cashier starts to sort of chuckle. Hubby walks away (with the cake) and leaves me to push the cart to the car.
I get to the car and he's agitated... asking why I made a scene etc. I'm equally agitated and tell him he was the cause of the scene. Silent treatment from me to him and vice versa on the drive home.
We get home and talk about it, kiss and make love but I'm still confused.
He says he didn't want me drawing attention to the fact that he had cake by asking to look at it in front of the cashier. She's going to think he's just a "big guy" that eats too much. But I'm thinking, I doubt the cashier cares about whether or not he eats cake, and wasn't he the cause of the scene by getting so upset about me asking to see it?
Honestly, I'm just confused... who was wrong here?
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The issue:
Today we're out shopping and husband picks up a slice of cake, I didn't care or even realize he had done it until we're in the checkout lane. As our items are being bagged, I noticed the cake and wanted to see it ( cake always piques my interest a tad). as I reach into the bag to grab it, my husband sort of pushes my hand away and says he doesn't want me to see it. Um...ok? I reach in agin just to look at it and he grabs the bag so I can't see it. Which makes me frustrated so I ask... what's the big deal, I only want to see it, I might want to get a slice for myself. All this is happening in the line and the cashier starts to sort of chuckle. Hubby walks away (with the cake) and leaves me to push the cart to the car.
I get to the car and he's agitated... asking why I made a scene etc. I'm equally agitated and tell him he was the cause of the scene. Silent treatment from me to him and vice versa on the drive home.
We get home and talk about it, kiss and make love but I'm still confused.
He says he didn't want me drawing attention to the fact that he had cake by asking to look at it in front of the cashier. She's going to think he's just a "big guy" that eats too much. But I'm thinking, I doubt the cashier cares about whether or not he eats cake, and wasn't he the cause of the scene by getting so upset about me asking to see it?
Honestly, I'm just confused... who was wrong here?
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