My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, three of those married. I am turning 30 soon, he is 34. Until the last couple of months, we were on the same page about children; we did now want to have them, and both openly discussed this from early on in our relationship. He now is thinking that he does want to be a dad, not right now but in the next few years. I have NEVER had the urge, and cannot imagine wanting children, too, and am completely torn up about this. We have a wonderful, supportive, almost effortless marriage and have agreed on all the big issues until this. We have discussed this situation, and was honest with him that I did not know if I would ever feel the same way he did, and that he should get everything he wants out of life. I do not want to lose him or what we have, and I know he feels the same, but how do we find a compromise? Is it possible to compromise? Do I wait the next couple of years to see if my clock starts to tick, or should we think about leaving each other now so that he has a chance to find someone else (add sick-to-my-stomach feeling here). He is the one who changed the plan, but I think I would rather have kids than lose him, but don't know if that is the rational decision. Help, please!