Sure sounds like an emotional affair. I have a few really good friends, we do not need to talk even daily to maintain that, so I don't see this as a friendship. Just saying.
I make no judgement on the relationship.....the way OP describes it sounds closer than I think wise, but is her description balanced or influenced by her fears?Buy him this book
Dr. Shirley Glass - NOT "Just Friends"
Tell him to read it - he has six hours and if he tries to stop reading before he's done, kick his ass out. Then tell him that he has 2 seconds to write her a NC letter, move the RV from her place, and agree never to speak to her ever again, or you are taking the RV yourself and parking it somewhere far far away and he will NEVER find it.
Then get tested for STD's because I can guarantee they've had sex. it's been FIVE YEARS. What guy stays in contact with any woman that his wife isn't friends with or related to or that he works with for that long, if he isn't getting sex?
I make no judgement on the relationship.....the way OP describes it sounds closer than I think wise, but is her description balanced or influenced by her fears?
However, I have female friends, some very close, who I have stayed in contact with for a LOT longer than 5 years. And never had sex with them or tried to.
I'm not alone in this, I know of quite a few relationships among my friends that work this way.
It is possible to have a female friend and not cheat if you have decent boundaries.
OP,. I find he has left his tools in her garage because we are still not in our home yet, so he spends most mornings at her home having coffee before work. she buys him clothes that he hides and pulls out at later dates. He takes showers at her home because we don't have facilities in the rv. .
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Well, if that is the case, then I would show him who his owner really is and be firm with him. You can cause him a lot more grief than she can. If I were you, I would not allow this to continue. In fact, you should give her a call and tell her to back off!Stumped to his actions. I guess he likes being owned.
No,no, I agree it sounds too close, I did say that. I would be drawing boundaries.Do they buy you things you keep hidden from your wife and call and text you 10 times a day?
I disagree. She said she is laid back and easy going. I'm guessing that the times she has confronted him already have gone this way. Her being gentle and somewhat passive about it. Yet he puts up with this woman demanding things from him. My guess is that he likes feeling needed and wanted and even though this woman seems controlling it's giving him that feeling.All I was saying is be a bit more gentle in confronting the issue. That doesn't mean don't be firm. Just don't be hot headed.
Well, there is "I have a serious problem with this relationship. We need to agree some boundaries and it is not negotiable"....that is what she should do.I disagree. She said she is laid back and easy going. I'm guessing that the times she has confronted him already have gone this way. Her being gentle and somewhat passive about it. Yet he puts up with this woman demanding things from him. My guess is that he likes feeling needed and wanted and even though this woman seems controlling it's giving him that feeling.
OP, you need to step up and demand that he cut ties with her. Absolutely be firm and straightforward that this needs to stop. If that is what he gets from this woman then you drawing the line may just show him that he is wanted and needed at home just as well and doesn't need her to fulfill that ego boost.
He is under her spell, so doesn't see her the way that you (and we) do.So now I'm baffled by my husband. Kinda the way men are baffled by women.
I was always under the impression men didn't care to be told what to do, ordered around, nagged at and annoyed by irritating women full of drama. This is how this woman seems to treat my husband. I'm totally the opposite. I'm easy going, slow to anger, give space when needed, don't nag, very supportive, fun loving. We even use to make it a point to go on a date twice a month to reconnect. Now that this woman has edged her way in over the past few months, we haven't gone on any dates.
Stumped to his actions. I guess he likes being owned.