This weekend following a bridal shower for my daughter that I had put many hours and love into, my daughter and I had an argument. I told her she was bossy. A few other words were exchanged, not too derrogatory on either side but my daughter said to me "You are meaner to me than anyone I know." This hurt me deeply. Later when we were in the car going home (this was an out or town shower) I said in front of both of them, "Sherry did you say to me that I was meaner to you than anyone you know." She said yes and my husband clearly heard her. His response was an expletive about how long the trip home was going to be. He did not reprimand her for speaking to me this way. I sat in the back of the car and cried my heart out while the two of them sat up front and laughed and talked on the way home. Today I told him that I was hurt that he had not told her it was wrong to speak to me that way and his response was "I do not get involved in your arguments." This feels like much more than not getting involved. It feels like he is supporting her disrespect of me. I am very hurt. Am I wrong to be offended by her and by his lack of support of my feelings. This is not the first time this type of thing has happened and I often feel that I am a fifth wheel in their relationship. She is both of our daughter, not a stepchild, just for the record.