Ok so, my wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 4 months w/ 2 children. While laying in bed one evening, she decided to tell me that she had been sexually assaulted. Her abuser was her best friends brother. Although, as time went on ( 2 days), I began to give the situation more thought and slowly began to have my suspicions. I would ask for more details and much like an interrogation, ask more and more questions. Long story short, she then told me that the encounter was of a consensual sort. I got her to admit that she had sex with another man and enjoyed it but she had also stated that she stopped it during the act, mid-way because she had felt guilty. I'm not sure I believe that part though. At first I was furious and unable to even look at her not to mention be civil. As time goes on though, I've begun to think that there might be some chance of reconciliation but, the mere thought of intimacy freaks me out because all can envision is them two having sex. Also, I have so many intimacy issues already due to being victimized by women and my father sexually when I was a child, starting at around 5 years old. This is one of the things that makes it hard because she knew all of this about me and still cheated. As a result of the sexual abuse when I was child, our sex life wasn't as active as she would've liked, ( about 1-2 times a week) but, it's just difficult for me to express myself in that way. I feel so confused and hurt that therapy seems to be the only option as to gain specific tools and deal with the many issues acquired. Of course, any comments would be appreciated.