I have been following the comments and want to thank everyone for trying to help me. I think my marriage will be ok after some time and changes even though this has really messed him up and our relationship. He still loves me and doesn’t hate me thank god. No mention of divorce or separation. It has been a really horrible feeling not being able to recall something so intimate and not give him any answers. It has gotten around some and I have been getting texts asking me what happened. That also sucks. Thinking about moving. He wants me to go to therapy and I will be starting that soon. I have brought up marriage counseling a few times to help us through this and he seems receptive. It can’t hurt and we are going away for a few days soon. My husband has overall handled this great considering the circumstances. We have gotten into a few arguments and we have talked about it more times then I can count. I have just been trying to let him feel his feelings. A lot of hurtful things have been said (of course) but most of the time he is nice to me which always makes me feel worse. We have been spending a lot of time together and it has been good for us I think. He is a great person and I have been lucky to be with him. Overall this has been a nightmare though. I think he knows I didn’t set out to cheat on him.
My husband messaged the other guy on Facebook. I saw the messages, husband wasn’t mean or attacking he just wanted to see what he would say and details. They had a few messages and it turned into a fight unsurprisingly. He got defensive, threw some insults and blocked my husband. I deactivated my Facebook after he messaged me. All of this made husband really mad so he tried to get his number for a while and then calmed down. He did get his number but hasn’t done anything with it so far.
I talked to my friend who gave me the pill and brought the guy. Not sure what to believe honestly. She said he is very recently divorced or separated, been all over the place but who knows. He had been hanging out with my friend a lot more since then and said he was going through a rough time. He told her that we ran into each other when everyone was asleep and that is how it happened. Friend told my husband how messed up I was and she didn’t think I knew what I was doing. I will never know. She said she has distanced herself from him. We aren’t going to involve police because we think it is a waste of time and will just create more problems. I have just been trying to focus on my marriage, work, and improving my life. Hopefully we can get past this with time. I’m sure we have a lot more to go through and I’m not sure what else to do to help him or us.
My husband messaged the other guy on Facebook. I saw the messages, husband wasn’t mean or attacking he just wanted to see what he would say and details. They had a few messages and it turned into a fight unsurprisingly. He got defensive, threw some insults and blocked my husband. I deactivated my Facebook after he messaged me. All of this made husband really mad so he tried to get his number for a while and then calmed down. He did get his number but hasn’t done anything with it so far.
I talked to my friend who gave me the pill and brought the guy. Not sure what to believe honestly. She said he is very recently divorced or separated, been all over the place but who knows. He had been hanging out with my friend a lot more since then and said he was going through a rough time. He told her that we ran into each other when everyone was asleep and that is how it happened. Friend told my husband how messed up I was and she didn’t think I knew what I was doing. I will never know. She said she has distanced herself from him. We aren’t going to involve police because we think it is a waste of time and will just create more problems. I have just been trying to focus on my marriage, work, and improving my life. Hopefully we can get past this with time. I’m sure we have a lot more to go through and I’m not sure what else to do to help him or us.
