Honestly that's something a woman needs to work out for themselves. And then she can show the man how to do it. The o is not necessarily the most important thing about sex to a woman. They have to feel a connection and I would hope she didn't get married if she didn't feel one. But even if she does feel one what she feels maybe more accurately expressed as attention and affection. We just don't know because she isn't very forthcoming. She may not know herself.They need to work out how she can even get the O.